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Today's reading in courage to change is about accepting the help of HP and Al-Anon friends instead of stubbornly holding on to problems ourselves.
The author shared that they sometimes are fixated on a problem, they cannot hear the guidance HP is sending their way. When they let go of their need to control the situation and solve the problem alone, they become open to help and direction from HP and others. By letting go of the problem, just a little, the author learns to move beyond the problem and begin to solve it. "When I accept that help comes in unexpected forms, I can release my hold on the problem and become willing to receive help."
Today's Reminder: I must do many things for myself, but I am not wholly self-sufficient. I need the help, support, and guidance I receive from my Higher Power and my Al-Anon friends. When I catch myself struggling with a problem today, I will let go of it long enough to reach out for help.
Today's Quote: "Once we learn to let go of the problem, the loving concern and help of the other members will provide strong support to help us unterstand what the Al-Anon program can do for us." This Is Al-Anon
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Today's reading speaks directly to one of my main character flaws. I often find myself struggling with a problem or issue, and believing that I have got to sort it out on my own. This strategy seems to be promoted sometimes in popular culture, but even heroes need to be supported, and I have found through work in the program that when I take a risk and share a challenge, there are others in the program and in my life who can point me in the direction of a solution. When I open myself up to hearing HP by letting go of my need to control a problem, I find the help I need to move beyond the problem and solve it.
Today's problem is a flat tire on my wife's car. I'm going to step back from that problem and let her call the salvage yard herself to see if they have a replacement tire. (The car isn't in good enough shape to buy new tires. If it is still on the road in December, we will be lucky.)
I hope you make today a great day!
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Good Morning Skorpi This is indeed an important reminder I have been in program for many years and just recently, I experienced a "Light BUlb" moment by talking a problem over with a fellow member. Together we uncovered the"exact nature" of my discomfort and then was able to move forward Letting God of unrealistic expectation.
This is indeed a "WE " program
Thanks for your service enjoy the day
Thank you, Skorpi for your service. This is speaking volumes to me today!
I am currently in a situation where my school district has LOST my transcripts. The very transcripts I need to graduate from the Pharmacy Technician program that will help pull me and my son out of poverty level income.
I am in the "inbetween" now waiting for the powers that be to either (1) find them or (2) offer another solution to this problem. I am trying very hard to believe my HP is working to guide them in their quest. Since it's been a month without a solution, my teacher finally had to step in and get the district superintendent involved. Now it's a wait-game. But I am supposed to graduated by the end of this month! I do not feel comfortable at this point, and keep reminding myself that my HP has got this!!!
Right?
~Sigh~
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Thank you Skorpi for your service and the daily. Thank you for your ESH and shares. All I know is my way and my will keep me stuck in so many ways, and I feel block me from the sunlight of the spirit. When I am able to find my courage and share with others, I often feel immediate relief when nothing else has truly changed around me. I am so, so grateful for the WE aspect of this program that helped me break the pattern of isolating and wrestling with 'life' and this disease in my own mind.
I am grateful that there are so many tools for us to pick up and that those who came before me gave me the love I needed to find my courage. I no longer feel weak, alone or troubled most of the time.
Happy hump day all! Make it awesome...(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Excellent post, thank you. For me, I've long seen the "hold on" aspect at play. I get it. I've seen the "don't like asking for help" as well. I really get that. For me, this program was designed in and around the fellowship. Sponsorship is a major part of the program. I personally don't think recovery is to be done alone, but to each their own, and anything is possible. Even in recovery, I am sure we have all seen it, people will want what they want, and want to control everything they can. For me, to each their own. It's part of the dynamic.
I've read the 12 steps for almost a quarter of a century -- both personally and professionally. Alanon has become a curriculum for living for me. It's long been innate. In those 12 steps, other than the seventh word of the first step, the words alcohol, alcoholism, and alcoholic, do NOT appear in the steps. We do not read the words them, him, her, etc. Yet our steps contain the words we, us, I. It is not simply content that I am speaking of. I am more speaking about context. To me, for me, embrace the program. The methodology, the mindset, the way of thinking, and so on. It works if you work it.
Thank you.
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Bo
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God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
