The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Today I plan to discuss several issues with my grown son. I actually have anxiety, and I don't want to have it. There is no reason to have it. Nothing bad is going to happen, and I believe this is left over trauma from childhood. With all my tools and progress my rational mind says how ridiculous I am to feel scared. My feelings however, seem to have a mind of their own. I will be talking to him in a few hours. We have been through thick and thin. Still hanging in there as mother and son. Go figure. Lyne
Feelings aren't facts, they just are and trust me I know that's hard to remember in the moment.
When I am feeling anxious and/or scared about the unknown and it's usually about the unknown because I want to control whatever is going on .. I really try to remember that the God of my understanding has this all under control .. there is a far bigger plan than the one I'm trying to force or focus on.
I hope that everything went well for you and your son .. sometimes things have to get different before they can get better.
Hugs S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
((((Lyne)))) Might want to inventory those feelings and thoughts and see if they are the false kind...you know False Evidence Appearing Real? You got good program and better still when your HP is sitting with you. ((((hugs))))
(((Lyne))) - I too am sending thoughts and prayers your way. I can readily relate ... discussions with my sons, no matter how much I love them and they love me can often go off the rails without intent or real cause. I try really hard to take my HP with me when we're 'going to talk'....it does help and I hope all went well!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Agree - awesome news! I love when things go better than anticipated (thank you HP)!!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
