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hi there , I am new to all this and really strufling to deal with it all , we have been together two year and she has been in recovery for 6 months , I feel I come fairly far down the list and we dont get time together, she hardly talks about it all and dont know how long it will be until we get back how she was when I met her and was for the first 6 month , she seems un loving and distant , how long will it be ?
Hi Phil Welcome Alcoholism is a chronic progressive disease that can be arrested but never cured Alanon is a program established for friends and families of alcoholics. it is here where we can receive support from those who understand and develop new tools to live by. Please check the white pages for a listing and attend the face to face meetings in your community. Please keep coming back here as well there is hope.
The meetings really helped me early on. Later, when my situation worsened they have been a lifesaver. This program is helping me in every area of my life.
I too send a welcome out to you Phil. I too started my recovery with meetings. It's been a game changer for me, and following the suggestions I learned in Al-Anon have helped in all my affairs. In Al-Anon, you find a fellowship of others who truly understand what it's like living with an alcoholic - active or in recovery.
It's a safe place to listen, share, learn, heal and grow. I hope you find your way to a meeting soon! If you don't like the first one, try another. Keep coming back here too - there is hope and help in recovery!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Welcome to the board Phil and I empathize with you. Your post reminds me what it was and I was and she was like when I first found the Family Groups. We didn't know anything and had to learn from others. Attending the face to face groups and listening with a wide open mind and asking for help was the right thing to do because all we were doing was the wrong things. We didn't know about alcoholism and didn't even know that we didn't know.
The program saved my life and sanity and I hold on to it on a daily basis. Find your meeting and attend regularly. Get the literature and use it daily and you will like the changes. Alcoholism is not normal to either of you so you gotta learn.
Daily work in the program helps to keep me sane and focusing on myself - the one person I can change.
Keep coming back
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
hi there , I am new to all this and really strufling to deal with it all , we have been together two year and she has been in recovery for 6 months , I feel I come fairly far down the list and we dont get time together, she hardly talks about it all and dont know how long it will be until we get back how she was when I met her and was for the first 6 month , she seems un loving and distant , how long will it be ?
Welcome Phil...if you go to face to face alanon meetings, then you are in the right place.
The best -- and the only -- "advice" you are going to get here is: a) go to face to face alanon meetings, as many as you can; b) use the daily readers, Courage To Change and One Day At A Time; c) Find a sponsor and start focusing and working on YOU.
When we go to face to face meetings, the people in those rooms know, feel, understand, exactly what you are feeling and experiencing. They've been there, and they have gone through it. You can learn from them. It's a safe place, it's the right place, for YOU.
All the best.
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Bo
Keep coming back...
God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
