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Well seems my oldest is starting to take flight and I couldn't be more proud .. I just pray this is not a reprieve until the next go around .. LOL.
Pretty much looks like last semester is going to get wiped out based upon a meeting tomorrow with the Dean of Science and my fingers are crossed. I am so staying out of the stuff with the XAH and I am way way way ok with that since that is their business and that man doesn't understand the full scope of things and it is going to be interesting. One thing that did come out of this was my kid is a pot stirrer and I have decided to allow them to do what they are going to do and stand quietly in my perception of the situation. That started again and instead of picking up the spoon I left it in the pot .. I am hard headed and a slow learner ... that's ok and not ok at times .. lol .. it makes things frustrating for me. His insurance HIS crap. NOT MY ISSUE at this point and time .. I'm curious to find out if he's figured out I have done taxes already this year. Nothing has been said at this point and time. I'm just going to continue to go with the program. My XAH informed me not our oldest that he's not paying for anything related to college and he will tell them that .. ok fine dude .. you do that .. so I haven't opened my mouth and my oldest just continues to ask for help .. LOL .. so far outside of some pushback he's followed through and that's a good thing. So this is beneficial for me. He did have the nerve and I think I mentioned that to ask what I was doing and got told by my oldest pretty much to sit down and mind his own business. I think that shocked him a bit because he has not brought it up again. I am still rattled over the issue of my XMIL who is his X step mother .. wanting to friend my oldest online .. I'm so totally not down with that at all. My oldest fully respects why that is at this point and feels uncomfortable based upon the changes going on ... the XAH being friended at this point is for their own benefit. He can't see anything I post and I don't think my oldest has friended the current wife .. and I continue to call her the Xwife and remind myself .. no that's me .. lol.
Staying on my side of the street and keeping it all clean.
I have things I need to take care of however I am ok where I am at. I just keep breathing. Now, that being said I still have some things to do. Those will be handled tomorrow.
My youngest has been off and running and I just lassoed him in a bit .. he's to funny .. I think it freaked him out more I just went directly to email and dealt with his teachers so they are coming to him. He was without his phone and really was like holy crap this is serious .. no warning just hello .. this will be dealt with from them. I'm ok with that. Now .. he seems to be on the right track however he's in for a shock this weekend if I don't get an update from his teachers informing me that all is well with his grades. No yelling, no juvenile sacrifice required today, and I'm at a point where it's just not whatever however .. it's whatever .. lol .. it's more like .. ok dude .. you go this way, you do that you better look to see where I am because if I turn left you are going to look crazy and need directions. He found that out this last go around and doesn't like what happened.
Now I am fully entertained by this especially being a people watcher and what does and doesn't work in the world of parenting a teen boy. Which I have zero experience in and just hope to be able to communicate as we have been.
I decided to take today off I have things I want to get done and just realized I have a party tray for tomorrow to put together .. LOL .. oh the tangled web we weave .. ugh .. oh well it will workout.
The bridal shower I helped put together came out wonderful and I got the sweetest thank you note from my work friend .. she's amazing and I look forward to her new journey with her sig other. He's a good guy.
So life is good .. I have 10 more days until my crazy hormones kick back in and I am not looking forward to that however I have come armed and ready with some supplements. I will see how that works. I decided to stay home today and just relax a bit. I need it. Some self care for my hair and me, it's a good thing since the men in my house decided that asking me what's for dinner last night after I have worked 3 - 9 hour days was probably the wrong question to ask and then having ME pick it up was not a good choice. I just get tired of constantly having to take certain things on .. it is changing and it is getting better just some days it would be so nice to have it all in place a couple days out of the week. I am struggling with the new schedule and I'm struggling with trying not to be difficult. I'm very good at being difficult .. lol .. it's what I do. My boss said the other day .. you need to be more positive .. I am positive I don't like self evaluations and I'm positive we all struggle with in them the biggest challenge I have is being placed in a box which is where my boss seems to believe I want to stay. I am not a box person .. LOL .. it's not my gig .. so I am looking at some classes I can take and some things I can do for me to further my career.
Anyway .. that's about it and I'm doing ok right where I am.
Thanks for letting me share .. S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
I need to follow in your footsteps with the 4th step awareness you show here, as Green Eyes referred to.
My XAH won't pay for our son's college expenses either, but he wanted me to do him a favor this past week since he sold our old house and he took his name off the HO policy and left me holding the bag. The withdraws were coming out of his checking account, but I was the only policy holder. HAHAHAHAHA.......I tried so hard not to laugh. I did what I could for him and he was grateful, but too bad he's never grateful enough to step up and help out our kid more. He just made 200K selling that house with equity I knew he had in there and he still has quite a bit put away from an inheritance. But, he clings to every penny like it's a brick of gold! The favor I did for him actually only saved him about $200. To basically fix an error that he brought on himself and he could have just chosen to let it go, because he is supposed to have insurance on the home even if he hadn't been living there since November. He wanted me to ask them to back date a refund to him for that time frame. When the insurance CO asked me for a copy of his HUD 1, I knew he wasn't going to get a refund. The mortgage company requires you have HO insurance even if you're not living there. That man will try to get away with anything to make a few bucks for himself. So glad I'm not married to him anymore!
Oh, and my crazy hormones are raging right now. Freaking menopause. i keep teasing my bf and telling him to just take me out to pasture and shoot me or wrap me in bubble wrap for about 10-12 days of the month. It's the only way any of us will survive this new hell I've entered! I don't even know myself sometimes. I cry over a cloud or a broken tree limb or stupid crap.....it's ridiculous!
Hope you have a great weekend, girl! HUGS to you!
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Never grow a wishbone where your backbone ought to be!
Great share Serenity and great awareness all around...For those with the hormonal changes, my best thoughts are that this too shall pass! Your posts remind me how powerless I am over others and how I don't want to be. I can remember a time when I was a selfish self-centered soul and have worked hard to do and be different.
Happy Weekend to one and all from my world...(((Hugs))) too!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Andromeda you can come visit for a while and freely do weeps without guilt here. We are great weepers and check the levels of our compassion and empathy tanks often. I feel ecstatic afterward and smile, smile, smile...oh and dance too. (((hugs)))
