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Recovery is a process: The reading today speaks about how there are so many instant things in our society that we might expect recovery to be "instant" as well. However that is not so. It takes time & patience to heal, change , and trust. We need to stop expecting instant relief, and accept that today is exactly where we need to be.
Today's Reminder: Alanon is a "One Day at a Time" program. No matter what is going on around me, today I know that I am moving forward. I will trust the process of recovery. I'll let time take time.
Quote from One Day at a Time in Alanon: If I am under pressure and setting myself deadlines, I will stop for a few minutes and think of just this one day and what I can do with it.
I readily relate to this reading especially when first entering program. I wanted to know how to change my A and I wanted to feel better right away. I actually felt confused because no one was telling me how to do this. Instead there was a process that was followed week after week which eventually made sense to me.
I also know that things will never be perfect, and at the present time I have painful, family matters going on , yet I do know that I am moving forward. I also have learned to trust that things are going to get even better, and although I don't know how or when, I lean on HP and my Alanon family for guidance.
I wish my MIP family health and happiness in 2018, Lyne
Hello Lyne I too wanted instant recovery and was disappointed to hear that recovery is process and that I needed to keep coming back, and using the tools and that I would grow and change slowly over time . Now after over 25 years in program I keep coming back growing and changing one day at a time. Thanks for your service. Happy New year .
Wow what a great reading. Definitely feel this in my expectations for myself and my recovery. I keep thinking that I want things to be "better" already and berating myself when they are not.
Let time take time is a great saying :) Happy new year all!
It certainly is a great reading for this first day of the new year. I'm just learning to navigate this site.....but, I am learning. A few things I have really picked up on in reading others "shares" on the forums go with todays reading. Or, perhaps they just stood out and I needed to hear them?
You shared you have learned to "Trust that things are going to get better." This is huge. How many do not have this hope........I trust things are going to get better. The word "courage" really stood out on a post. It does take courage to do what we are all doing. How many have no courage .........The word "hope" was another one. I have hope today whereas I was losing all hope before returning to this simple 12-step program. When I think of the short time in moving from hopeless to trust, courage and hope.......I see how blessed I am today. It may take time and that is ok. Just the relief in knowing I am not alone and realizing what has been the problem, self, and having some direction is huge!
Thank you Lyne for your service and the daily. Thank you all above for your shares and ESH. I too wanted (thought I needed) instant relief when I finally arrived with an open mind. I was angry at the world, self, others and the God of mu understanding. It took me a while to accept that lasting real change for me came more often when I was hurting or in pain. I believe now that the 'master plan' of One Day at a Time' and 'recovery is a process' for living given me the ability to feel/see/live the changes and want more.
My sponsor's sponsor used to tell her when she was dealing with pain/chaos to 'Thank God for the pain'. She was not thrilled with this concept but tried it anyways as it was recommended. She also suggested the same for me and my facial expressions often speak for me even when I am biting my tongue. We laugh today as we've both felt the benefit of making it through growth and pain to the other side.
I am not one who does resolutions as it's set me up to feel like a failure on the first day often. Instead, my focus is just to be present and live as best I can one day at a time. Happy Years to All - so glad you are part of my journey! Stay warm and safe...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
THank you, Lyne for your service... this was exactly what I needed to read today, as last night was a tough one for me. I ended up leaving a New Year's party in tears! Ugh! I felt like I had taken 5 GIANT steps backwards.
BUT... after I read the daily you shared, I keep reminding myself that recovery is a process... and I need to TRUST that process. Not only that, but I AM moving forward. I am.
Happy 2018 to all here who share, and a warm welcome to those who just "lurk" waiting for the courage to post. Go ahead, jump in! The support is warm and friendly!
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
