The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Todays reading is about the chaos that an alcoholic home can be. Many of us who grew up in or have lived in a home with an A have learned some survival techniques like-not trusting anyone, not being trustworthy, being unable to stand up for ourselves. A sentence that resonated for me in this description is: No wonder as an adult I perceived that close interpersonal relationships were like constantly moving targets.
In this program we learn to trust, beginning w our HP, and growing with our fellowship...as many of us have felt, realizing we are not alone in this is one of the greatest reliefs there is. I think that growing up in an alcoholic home skews our sense of reality; for me, learning about myself and my relationship w my Hp has helped ground me in reality again.
Thank you ((((yanksfan51)))) for your ESH :) so many layers to this disease like peeling an opinion one member told me. Hope you have a great Sunday too! To think and live One Day at a time today is great this morning :) thank you to all for the program!
Good Morning Mary and Maggie. I appreciate your sharing your thoughts on this important topic. Not trusting, not validating myself,making my needs invisible denying reality are all tools I developed as a child to survive the insanity. They appeared to work as a child but certainly backfired when i reached adulthood. Thanks to program, the Steps and Slogans I developed the ability to be kind, compassionate, self validating and generous without abandoning myself in the process.
Thanks for your service, Mary, and all the ESH above. Just had a little taste of chaos again. So glad I have Alanon to turn to. I would have tortured myself with endless doubt, worry and guilt over this current situation. Now I just stopped engaging in what was clearly a fruitless conversation, and I don't try to find sense in the disease. I let out my anger and frustration on thin air, and I'm OK. I tried keeping my side of the street clean, apologized for some sharp words, that's all I can do. Chaos is just part of the disease. What can I do to improve my situation? That's the question.
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Thank you Mary for the daily and your service. Thank you all for your shares and ESH above me. Using this program, and getting to the 'other side' for the most part has truly given me insight into how I no longer want to live/be. I can look back just enough to see that absolute insanity, and find extreme gratitude for where this program has carried me to.
Life still happens and I still consider 'reacting' yet practicing this program daily gives me the tools to reconsider and respond or not. It's been so freeing to let go of control, worry, fear, perfectionism, etc. as I continue to use the steps/program/tools.
Happy Sunday to one and all! Make it a great day!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
