I have returned from my week long visit with my daughter.  I did stay in the hotel for the entire week as planned and we carried on with our activities despite the chaos/drama unfolding at her house.   For the most part she was very pleasant to be around and we had some fun.  I was honoured to meet her sponsor and also was invited to attend an open AA meeting with my daughter. .  Our relationship is strong and I am grateful.     A couple of times she was subdued/preoccupied with appeasing her boyfriend, but I simply stayed out of it all and let her know we support her when she is ready to make a change.  I did go to their house the one night for tea and planned to have a conversation with him but he did not appear so perhaps that was divine intervention I do not know.  I had no ill intent but would have made it clear that she has our support and we stand behind her,  she is not alone.  He was suspended from his job the day I left for continued tardiness and poor performance so life is providing the lessons that are required.  I am frustrated to see her unhappy but I know that she has to sort it all out in her own way.  I just pray for her safety and that it does not escalate to physical violence although the verbal abuse and threats of his own self harm have her walking on eggshells.  I offered my advice and support in handling that and left it alone.  I am in a better place and have calmed down about the whole situation.  Whether that is resignation or detatchment,  I do not know but whatever it is it is better for my own mental health.