Hello, Im new here....   Ive been married to my alcoholic husband for 15 years(together for 20). He drank almost every day back then but he still went to work and had a normal life.   As the years went on he began having panic attacks and the drinking became worse to the point that he couldnt work. That was about 2 years ago.   He was up to about a 30 pack of beer a day.   last December he admitted himself into a local hospital to detox.  He was there about 5 days and he said it was hell.   He came home with the attitude that he didnt need meetings to tell him that he shouldnt drink.  He already knows that.  So he didnt go to AA.  after about a few weeks he started drinking again.  In the last 10 months he went to a GI dr that told him if he doesnt stop drinking he was going to kill himself.  So....  a few weeks ago he asked to be admitted into an inpatient facility. He detoxed for 3 days and went to a day and a half of inpatient classes then decided to come home.  He has been doing the classes outpatient every week day and is going to AA meetings every night   He said he hasnt been this happy in a long time.   he has a sponsor and is doing what he needs to do for his treatment...  Im very proud of him.  We have 2 daughters. Our 12 year old is supportive but our 15 year old is very angry/hurt. She has seen me struggling and his drinking has affected our home/life. She was proud of him when he decided to admit himself but now that he is home she wont talk to him. She acts like he isnt even in the same room.  If she does acknowledge him its to remind him of how crappy of a dad he has been the last so many years. She told me when he gets a job and acts like a dad she will be nice to him but not until then.