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Fil0417


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Hi everyone. I'm new here. I have been looking for a support group that will understand what I'm going through. My friends and immediate family don't understand the nature of this illness that is Alcoholism. Most will just ask me to leave. I don't want to and I want to make things work between me and my A. He relapsed last night and I was presented with so many things yesterday. This prompted me to come here after more than a year of being with my A. He's been with AA for 5 years or so, in and out but took it seriously when we got together. It's his 8th month today, my first day in Al-Anon. In those 8 months he relapsed a lot, would go to meetings religiously and would drink at some occasions with 2 or 3 major incidents, 1 of them was when he committed suicide while drunk 3 months ago. I need help for me, him and us. I live in the Philippines and we only have 1 meeting which is 4-5 hrs away from where we live. It devastates me that I can't find a physical support group, someone I could talk to personally. I thought I was strong and could do this on my own but things have just gotten worse. We're 6 months late in paying the rent, got so many debts, late in paying the electricity bill, no meds for his BPD and major depressive disorder, and he's jobless for more than a year now. I desperately need help but I don't want to leave. People around me think it's easy. They don't understand. It doesn't work that way. I want us to work and I know we will. ________________ April

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Hugs, ((((April)))), I'm so sorry for your pain... I don't know if it something you might want try out for now - there are online meetings here on MIP, I think they are held twice a day. I also used to think I could handle living with an alcoholic on my own, and that finally brought me to Alanon, and to this board as well, as I clearly couldn't go on like before anymore. I'm glad you've reached out here, MIP gave me a lot of support in the beginning and it still does. Sending you positive thoughts. Keep coming back

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Welcome Fil, as Aline suggested we do have on line meetings here 2xs a day and they are extremely helpful. Here is the link

http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html

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Fil0417


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Thank you so much for your responses. I've attended the first meeting yesterday. I'm still getting the hang of it. Will attend the morning meeting in a few minutes.

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Great there is help and hope

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I have a question. Is getting a sponsor too soon? I really want to start with this program right away but I don't want to rush things and then mellow down after a few months. I want to keep up to this.

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It is suggested that you get a spnorsor as soon as you are able.

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Welcome to MIP April - glad you found us and joined right in. Keep coming back - there is hope and help in recovery!

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Aloha April and welcome again to the board...grateful that there are 2 daily meetings here for you as near as your keyboard and the experiences, strengths and hopes at MIP are huge helps.  Sponsorship?  yes and learn how to use one also.  Other tools are literature prayer and meditation also supported in and by the program.  The MIP site has lots of support...keep coming back often.   ((((hugs)))) smile



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Thank you all for your warm welcome. I don't know how I could get a sponsor online. It's my only avenue because we no longer have physical meetings here in our country.

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might want to try posting a new thread asking if there are sponsors available here in this site .. bringing it up at the online meeting is another suggestion .. wishing you the best .. so many reasons for 'hope here ..

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Thank you for your suggestion. I'll do that. I've been asking around in the meetings, too.

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