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Someting is happening to me and I don't know why or even what it is ... HELP LOL. It is not a bad thing just so different that I am wondering just who I am. I'll explain ...
Last Friday morning my AH came home in the morning after work handed me his check, normal enough (thanks HP) .. usually I deposit it pay bills give him a little and then bank the rest for expences for the next couple weeks, along with what he usually needs in the same amount of time. Anyway, I didn't leave the house, was given the day off and took advantage of it. He woke up was ready to go to work, asked me for some money and I didn't have any. He got pissy and left. I did not like him getting angry with me over money, so after having my brother and gf over for dinner I thought about it. I decided I do not want to be responsible for budgeting his personal money. The next morning I told him so and took him to the bank, took what I needed for bills from his check and gave him the rest. Went on my way to work. I HANDED OVER ALL HIS MONEY WITH NO QUALMS BECAUSE I WAS SICK OF TAKING CARE OF IT FOR HIM .... who switched my brain without me knowing it?
Today, I again had part of the day off for work I had done over the weekend on offtime. He called me at work and aske dwhen I was done, I wasn't sure so called him back a few minutes later and said anytime. "I'll be there in an hour" yep those were his words. He called in an hour and said "Have something to do will take 20 minutes, be there right after that". An hour and 10 minutes later I flet myself getting more mad by the moment ... guess what I did? Left a note saying, I waited as long as I wanted to for you. Went to do my own things. See you later. When I got home, I heard I was there right after you left. I reminded him of how he felt as a vhild when his Dad would call and say be there soon from a bar and then call again later and so on and so on. Told him I deserve better than that.
Kind of small trivial things but my answers to what to do in these cases came so fast, and are ones I am comfortable with. Mayeb not the best ones but good enough for me .... just curious how the heck my brain started on this track in the last few days ... any ESH please feel free and thanks for reading
I loved your post. The same type of thing happens to me a lot. I suddenly notice i am able to handle something new, or handle something differenly, when it used to give me trouble before. "In God's time, not mine." I love that phrase. I have come to believe it in this program.
Hi Jen, congratulations on making choices you are comfortable with and for taking care of yourself. As to who switched your brain... you did with help from your HP and Al-anon. It sounds to me like your applying the program and feeling the freedom in it. You GROW girl!
