Including me. I've started and stopped (support and self help) so many times I lost count but it's never too late to start anew on a clean page. Maybe, it has given me time to put more things into perspective. This time, however, I'm not really sure exactly how much perspective I need. (A little back history, I've lived with ASO for 6 years now). ASO has always seemed to have a rocky relationship with my 23 year old son who was at the time in high school and is now in college and living at home while he is doing his studies. late last year my son was tentatively diagnosed with bipolar/schizoaffective disorder and he was briefly hospitalized. In July of this year, he was arrested on a minor traffic violation and ended up being beaten severely by sheriff's deputies while he was in psychiatric restraints including a type of wrap or straight jacket. He was in jail in a safe room for over three weeks and finally released on summary probation on the condition that he seek mental health program enrollment and counseling. Just late last week, after almost a month in jail with no calls out and no visits allowed, I get to pick up my son and bring him home he was about close to 20 pounds thinner his eyes were almost swollen shut and he obviously gone through a terrible time. The next day or possibly the morning after, the A manages to make the experience about him as he begins to throw the most ridiculous fit I have ever seen in 6 years if it's not the most ridiculous it's close to it. The A began to throw a toddler style fit because apparently food and beverage had been consumed by my son that should have been left for the A. Just as a side note, all of the food and beverage have been paid for by myself. The fit thrower has not had a steady job in about five years and 11 months out of the six years. I later got a series of messages on a game I used to play as a stress reliever these messages were from him stating that he was going to reclaim a refrigerator I had given to a neighbor so that he could keep his food in there and that food would only be for him and once again, this refrigerator was my refrigerator that I had bought and paid for myself. Since this happened last week about five days ago he has been lying on the floor in a fetal position only getting up to either play games which the TV monitor is right in front of him, or to sneak food when he thinks that I won't see him or to smoke marijuana in the backyard. I am reminded of the slogans and how helpful they can be even when a person has sort of slacked off and working the steps such as myself I always remember nothing changes if nothing changes, and I am reminded that it works if you work it. I also remember that I am able to make my decisions independently of the alcoholic addict and I'm able to live my life independently of what the alcoholic or addict chooses to do I don't have to live with them I can love them from a distance and I can let them go, and I think that it is probably finally time to let that happen. Time will tell if I am actually strong enough to walk away from it but with my health issues and things going on with my son now it has helped me to see more clearly that enabling or just being a co-dependent with this person has done nothing but bring me grief, stress, ulcers. fatigue, depression and hasn't helped me one bit it's only helped me down not up. Actually, strike that. I believe that it really has made me stronger in many ways that I am becoming aware of! I had just forgotten those for a moment with my stress related health problems that are affecting me at this juncture. Thank you for letting me share. I will certainly try to keep coming back.