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Post Info TOPIC: ODAT Reading 6-25-2017


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ODAT Reading 6-25-2017


The ODAT  reading June 25 speaks about my favorite Step-Step 11. The reading points out that the words of this step are extremely important,:" sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood him, praying only for knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry it out."
The reading suggested that  if we are living by the Al-Anon Council" first things first", then prayer and meditation comes before all else. It is in this way that we receive guidance for our decision


I began practicing this step before I actually had completed all the others because i saw that  it suggests that I pray for knowledge of God's will and  also the power to carry it out . This was very reassuring to me.  . HP was not going to ask me to do anything that He was not going to provide me with the courage and power to accomplish. I must admit that many of the situations I encountered were extremely difficult but I was given the courage and wisdom to walk through each one without being destroyed.

This is a powerful step and i embrace it each day . 





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Happy Sunday Betty - thank you always for your service and for this awesome daily.....I too started practicing prayer/meditation well before I got to the steps that mention God simply because all else had failed and I figured....why not?

I had a warped belief that the God of my youth and FOO did not want me or like me which brought me doubt. Tons of it actually. My thinking was distorted enough that I figured I would show all that there are 'some of us' who God had forgotten and left to blow in the wind.

What happened actually was extremely different than what I expected - imagine that. When I practiced prayer/meditation, I felt calmer and more peaceful. A few practice sessions like this gave me just enough faith to consider that perhaps I was not left behind and I too could restore some sanity to my life and my being.

I too embrace this step daily. I am so grateful that others shared their ESH without 'forcing solutions' on me so that I could practice what was suggested and 'feel' my own small miracles, success, healing and growth. When we experience it vs. when we are told it - for me - gives me the necessary push to keep trying new things and to venture beyond my comfort zone.

May your day be blessed - I am skipping my meeting (sad face here) to venture instead to do some service work. Softball this afternoon, Royals games too (TV) and then more softball this evening. We have spring temperatures currently and the cool-down with lower humidity is a welcome blessing. Should be 'there' in a day/two! (((Hugs)))

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((((Betty)))) when I lie in bed at night, I always check in with me..and do my breathing which makes me open to new ideas from my inner HP......

this past April, I had to euthanize my beloved 3.5 yr. old pit bull do to what vet thinks was cancer as she was bleeding internally and had a mass inside of her.....I was devastated...I was down to one dog and I wanted another after I cried and worked through some grief...I went to the animal shelter to "save another life" b/c I could not help my departed pet anymore and there were many adoptable pets whom I could help and transfer my grief into helping another....I got this one "little fella" lab mix with maybe pit bull (love my pit bulls and labs a close 2nd..so a mix of the two are a good mix) anyway, he was so pet aggressive to my other dog and nearly killed my kitty, and I had to bring him back....i let them keep my money so as to help him get adopted out....then I rescued a ger shepherd mix from a guy who was unloading a fear biter on me...I had to take him to a rescue group where special behavioral trainers MAYBE could help him??? he was over my head so I did what I could by him

it was a flurry of action, finding another family member..I had cut my HP out....I was gonna be in control, good little loyal CoDa that I am....FINALLY I lied in bed and I just said to HP..."I am failing here...I need another dog for companionship and for protection as I live alone...lead me and guide me to my next fur baby"

a friend of mine had 2 doggies..2 lab/pit, the other lab and terrier of some kind?? anyway, they "got together" an mama dog had babies and my friend was desperate to find homes for the babies as she lives with mom and dad after her divorce and mom wanted the babies GONE.....I couldn't seem to catch up with her (she works as a EMT and is on call a lot) so I mised out on the babies....THEN, when I am feeling totally thwarted on my quest to find another family member, my friend texts me to tell me "one of the puppies came back...a female...seems older dog in family didn't accept her so she is BACK" i run down there and I meet this adorable, black ball of fur who seemed to have a great personality and I took her home....She is a cutie....and i think when she gets older , she will begin to protect me as well as steal my shoes and hide them and play other games wth me...

she will be four months old on Jul 1 and she is very very bright.....so yea, i mixed steps 11 along wtih a dash of steps 1,2,3 here and this baby , for FREE, fell into my lap......

funny how when I give the struggle over, things kinda work out and i just follow the leads....

I kinda use step 11 as a "daily report card" for me...what did i do that was a winner?? what did I do that needs to be managed??? how did I feel today??? why??? and what can i do to accentuate the positive and minimize the negative????

thank you for this reminder.....and thank you for your service here.....HUGS

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Great share Rose You have a huge heart.  I am  glad that you were able to find a 4 legged friend to enjoy .aww



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Thank you Betty for ODAT on Step 11 and for your service. Thank you IAH and Rosie for your ESH. I too leaned into step 11 before working the other steps as it gave me strength. My early distorted version of prayer was more like a grocery list of my wants and needs to HP. Then I had 2 heart attacks in 2 years and humbly learned I can't, God can and I better let him. Now I am thankful each morning to be present and for my blessings and I ask for guidance for the day.
Rosie, I too lost my beloved 17 yr old Shih tsu to brain cancer this January. I felt like I lost my shadow. I tried finding another at the shelters but no luck. Made it through the application process but someone else always got the pup. So just turned it over to HP. Then on a visit to the vet for my cat, the vet said she knew I was looking for a new fur baby and said she had just got one from a client for herself. Turned out the breeder was the owner of the kennel we took our old dog to for grooming and boarding.  About a week later the breeder called me and said she had one little girl left and would I be interested.  Needless to say I now have a new baby that loves to walk and she'll be 4 months July 3rd.  Have a great Sunday all.



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Had to pop back in as I know how special my fur-baby is!!! Her name is Layla and she was the first 'adult dog' I ever adopted/rescued. My previous dog died suddenly as the mobile vet was heading to the house. No warning, just one day would not eat, the next day would not be 'touched' and then would not get up. I used google to see about mobile vets. as I could not lift him by myself - too big and angry over pain/suffering/???

Anyways, he passed before the vet could arrive. I was devastated and he passed in my office right where my feet go. That was close to 10 years ago. Being more immature and a bit melodramatic back then, I cried and packed up everything - dog food, treats, bowls, toys, beds, cages, crates, etc. and took them all to a local shelter - I could not bear having another loved pup pass like that!!!

Well - it was too quiet. I couldn't think without my shadow and knee nudging fur friend so I decided I'd just 'look'. Went to one adoption place and they had gray hounds only. Lovely dogs and gentle creatures but I really wanted a smaller dog this time - just in case. Went to another adoption place and there were a few available. The young were happy go lucky, jumping playful and what not. And then there was Layla. She was serene, full of grace and just sat in the middle as if she did not have a care in the world.

My youngest was with me and asked if he could walk her - off they went. I got to talking with the volunteers, and it appears she'd been trained at the prison for obedience and had been available for adoption for 8 months. Each week, they brought her out and each week, younger pups went to forever homes and she did not. Yet they said, she remained full of grace every day and never appeared depressed, sad or other...talk about living in the moment.

When my son and Layla did not return shortly, I went to find them. The two were sitting on a bench, my son on the bench and she right at his feet. Both where just looking as if they did not have a care in the world and my boy wanted to bring her home. I groaned just a bit because she was bigger than I truly wanted (65 lbs.) yet I had to agree that she was a lovely creature.

They did not know her age. They guessed her between 2-4. Could be older...might be a bit younger. Nobody knows for sure but she's still here, almost 10 years later. She is a great companion and truly has awesome manners. What a great gift it was to bring home a new fur baby and have her just sit in the middle of the room waiting for instructions, rules, etc. No sleepless nights, no accidents on the floor - I may never go 'puppy' again!!!

I have learned so, so much from her. She doesn't care who yells, what's going on, etc. - she's always serene and unconditionally happy to 'be'. Ironically enough, I've really struggled to go into my office since Max (previous dog) died. I would walk in and just be profoundly sad - always wondering what happened. I just cleaned it out and changed up the furniture and things, and have been easing back in for my work. I walked in the other day and heard the message loud and clear - "A rescue dog is grateful for a forever home - whether it's a lifetime or a weekend." My sadness has now dissipated and I am sure Max is at peace at the rainbow bridge!!

I've gotten/grown way more because of pets than I've given to them....Thanks for the shares and letting me share too!

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((((IamHere))))) Ohhh lovely story...and I can so relate...i have had doggies all my life and more then one in the house because I just love them, but along with the love comes the goodbyes because sadly they don't last as long as humans...so yea, the love and hugs and play , then the sicknesses and the good byes....tears my heart out, but I would rather have them and love them and lose them then never experience their unconditional love at all.....I cried for the first month that Sadie was gone....wept my heart out but i decided to transfer that grief into helping another (she would have been taken to the shelter had I not wanted her) little deserving pet....and this puppy is funny...bright...sassy...spunky....LOVES to take my crocs and hide them so many times I have to go out and pick up the dog doo doo bear footed b/c I cant find my crocs..Not a thing to do at night if I don't want to have to bath my feet again........and oh yea, when i strip off my sweaty gym clothes and take a shower, I come out adn she AND the big lab/pit are jockying for space so they can BOTH lie on my sweat soaked, Have to be stinky clothing.......to them that smell is heaven.....when i get out of bed in the middle of the night, I have to be reeeeel careful so as to not step on a sleeping black ball of fur, big or little, and tip toe to the Loo only to have the puppy wake up and come in and want to cuddle as I take care of natures business.....NOW she has to very lovely habit of sticking her little black snout under the shower curtain so she can watch me take a shower....OH WHAT FUN!!!! the older doggie is passed out on my clothes while the puppy does her peeping tom thingy to me while I shower.....then of course she gets her little paws on the edge of the toilet where the water is cooler than her bowl and with paws half in the toilet, she gets her drink....THEN wants to kiss me afterwards........NOT!!!!!!!

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Love, love, love fur-babies!!! (((Rose)))

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 

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