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Post Info TOPIC: ~ Warning ~ Life is a BUMPY ride!


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~ Warning ~ Life is a BUMPY ride!


Okay, if there were warnings on everything...  there literally would be warnings on everything!  We would need a license to get pregnant, cross the street, take personal emotional risks.


Even going to the grocery store could be potentially dangerous to your health ~ in my state most ppl carry guns anyway!


Everything is dangerous & everything is a risk at some level.  Some ppl are cruel & they hurt your feelings...  some beat, rape & kill you.


I know one thing, I may have had God all along during these 38 years of being programmed & reinforced to be a 'good lil co-dependent child & an ACOA' but in a way that just made it worse.


I felt justified in sacrificing myself, "gotta love others more than you,"  'turn the other cheek' ~ that one alone kept me being abused & a false sense of what God really does want for me. 


God wants me to love myself, this means stand up for myself, not to be satisfied with less, and not to be taken advantage of!  I am a human not a doormat.  If I don't determine that my own value & self-worth means more than what someone else tells me it does -- (haha) - then I shall remain brainwashed & brain-dead forever.  That is not thinking or living.


Forgiving others does not mean forgetting, it means releasing them to their own lessons, for me to focus on my own lessons ~ only I can hear my own HP in my own head/heart which resonates in my soul to give me the discernment, if it's really a truth & from God or not!


I know I can effect great changes within me, I will transmute this and I will continue to change, perservere & with a determined attitude & an open mind about God & a willingness to surrender to the most mysterious joys & Blessings possible, surely I am opening myself up to witnessing even more miracles, a steady stream!!! 


Just have to remember to bite my tongue at times, ppl have to figure things out for themselves, we ARE all different after all     God watch over us all, protect us & align us with Your divine will! Amen.


love, -K



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"Forgiving people means releasing them to their own lessons"


I really like that!  That helps me gain a different perspective on forgiveness. 



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((((((((((((Kitty))))))))))


 


As usual you took the words, thoughts and ideas right out of my mouth!  Great post..ty so much!  Hope you had a great birthday!


 


Julia 



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Kitty,


"Forgiveness is releasing them to their own lessons" I have never understood that word since my early days in church. I am slowly gaining a concept of it. You don't lose anything of yourself. Thanks.


Nancy



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  God love your straightforwardness and huge heartfelt ES&H.


.. Forgiving others does not mean forgetting, it means releasing them to their own lessons, for me to focus on my own lessons...


 SUCH A   **** Wonderful Reminder! That the way (The Way) that I Forgive.. can allow me to go on...release (Let GO)  any anger or hurt I may of initially felt to hold on to and  graavel with.   I'  learn more every day the benefits of the slogan  " Let Go and Let God. " It took living it..  and Believing...   it would change...to SEE ing it change me. The others around me I love so much.  And I DO SEE it.        Keep it Simple.  LEt IT Go and Let God 


* HP wants US / You /  Me  to let Him take care of all those things that are not in our control. Thats most everything for me  (haha.)  I had to learn this.  Its OK   to take care   of my Self.    I am able to Love others as I feel so much better about my Own.  My inner me.  


Love how You thrive with such a head on determined spiritual inner flow. Love your ability to lovingly reveal your own experiences, your wisdom, your learning.. (with Me and) to others.  I JUST "Love You"  Kitty. 


I appreciate your ES&H  very much. 



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There are some days I do not want to get out of the the house.  HP has a sense of humor one day I was feeling that hiding in the house not wanting to deal with the world and the police knocked on the door with their guns drawn looking for someone they were chasing!  I was so upset!  I had to take it as a sign I had to go out and deal with life on life's terms not mine.


I wish I had grown up in a family where I got support and understanding. I grew up in a family where I got blamed, abused and kicked around and basically isolated.  I never did get the tools to deal with life on life's terms.  Now I do with this family of choice.


Maresie.



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Kitty,


What an awesome share!!!!  I can see so much progress   You keep coming and it really is shining through.  You go girl!!!


... Forgiving others does not mean forgetting, it means releasing them to their own lessons, for me to focus on my own lessons...


Seems that everyone agrees you hit upon something here.  Hmmm, that could be a new AlAnon slogan


Love Maria



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((((((((Kitty)))))))

Thank you for the wonderful post. For me forgiveness is comes maybe too easy. Although I can never forget things.

Thanks for the wonderful prospective.

Love ya,
Andrea

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