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Good afternoon MIP family. I am back from my exhausting, wonderful vacation which required that I use many of my Al-Anon tools in order to stay in the moment and in the day I am happy to report that the program works when I work it.
I have posted the seventh step to the step work board and would appreciate your sharing your comments on the step.
Welcome back, Betty! So glad you had a wonderful, if not exhausting, trip, and that the program was there to help guide you through the challenges. Now for a couple of weeks of recuperation
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
Welcome back Betty! I have done step 4 several times but have only done step 7 1x. This made me think about what I still need to work on to improve, get healthier, and need help from HP with. My son has been saying a few things to me since Dec. and I have not been able to "hear" him. I have viewed myself as a good listener but missed the boat here. My A did something a day or two ago that is exactly what my son has been saying: her anger at me is causing her to lash at others. What is it about me that I did not understand what my son was saying? I couldn't take it in. I had deaf ears until she did this to another person. This incident will help me ask HP for understanding and help. I love the steps! Lyne
Hi Cathy an Lyne I agree Cathy this vacation did require many early morning tours but it was worth it .
Lyne I do believe I was in denial with my son and husband for many years. I could not hear what they were saying because I could not look at my motives objectively until alanon showed me how to" listen with an open mind", examine my motives honestly and truly "see:" Congrats on actually "seeing" that is a huge step in awareness and acceptance. Trust the process.
Thanks Paul