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Lyne


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Hi all-It has taken me nearly 4 years in program to discover what my bottom line is for staying with my A.  A few weeks ago my A came home barely able to walk, and slurring her words.  Although this is now a rare occassion, that she could kill someone else, because of her addiction, is not OK with me.  I asked her to go to a food disorder center, or else I couldn't go on as things are, and she agreed .  She has two weeks in, they have a no alcohol policy, and she is being guided to AA.  She will see a certified alcohol counselor as part of her treatment for now.  I didn't really give her an ultimatum, as I offered to go with her and be a part of the treatment, admitting I have problems too.  We had a couples' meeting yesterday for an hour and a half, and I will also attend multi-family groups.  I had spoken to my sponsor as to whether I was trying to control her or not, and she thought not.  I am being completely honest with my spouse:  if she decides to continue working on her addictions, I will support our marriage.  If she decides not to address her problems in this serious manner, then we need change.  Thanks to all of you, I have gotten stronger and wiser.  Progress not perfection however, we have a long road ahead.  Amen. Lyne



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Hi LYne    It certainly sounds as if you drew a healthy boundary and are following through. Good Work.
One day at a time this program works.



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GFU .. taking care of you is a good thing :)

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Stronger and wiser, day by day --- recovery looks good on you!

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(((Lyne))) - I say great job and way to work it. I am glad to learn that she's 'aware' and taking action. I am one who believes there is some acceptance always even if it's not a 'perfect level'.

Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way - love progress as a goal - for me, perfection has proven to be over-rated time and time and time again!



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Jerry F


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Lyne you sound so healthy and so into taking care of you.  Prayers coming from the Pacific for both of you...(((hugs))) smile



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Lyne


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Thanks everyone for your caring support. I appreciate it so much, Lyne

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