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Ah, growing up with recovery in my life is so beautiful. I've really come to accept alcoholism is a disease and it helps me so much to approach myself and my family. Still from an ocean apart mind you. I was recently given a precious taonga ( gift, treasure) by a recovery brother which helped me immensely to continue the letting go and forgiveness process. As the lens widens, compassion without the rescue urge grows.
Recently, lots of ( alcoholism anchored) information came my way, including promises and a mirage. But I knew that it was alcoholism speaking, more than I felt a lack/need within, thus I was not upset when the promise got broken nor am I mired in the mirage, except for the realistic legal mess I will have to clean up upon deaths of elders. Worry about that when it comes, what else can one do? Powerless over others, not over me. So the invitation to lala land was declined by me, before it even arrived, thanks to the 12 step miracles that are AA and Alanon.
Keep on keeping on everybody!
Awesome share ((a41)), thank you. I love what you said "compassion without the rescue urge grows". Exactly what I needed to hear at the exact moment I needed to hear it, yes thank you 12 step miracles!
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- Carrie
Stress is caused by being 'here' but wanting to be 'there'. Eckhart Tolle
Dear a 41 thank you so much for your inspiring share and for not taking the invitations to Lala land. Prior to program, I accepted that invitation relentlessly and am so grateful that I now have the tools to see reality, stay out of denial and take care myself.
It is evident you are doing likewise. Thanks for sharing the journey
Love, love, love your share.....so spot on for me too! I had dinner with a program friend tonight who happens to be in the legal field. She knows I'm going to see my parents and asked if they had a will or a living trust. I told her that I did not know, I would know when they passed as I'm the executor.....she felt that I needed to break trust and open the sealed envelope I've had for years so I would know.....
I know I looked at her like she had 3 horns as I was caught off guard at the suggestion out of the blue. I love this woman like a sister, but I truly do not need to be concerned with this now - rather - I need to focus on making my plane on time in less than 2 days.
I am also very grateful for recovery ---- I can listen when others suggest things and choose what makes sense for me...something innocent like this would have sent me chasing a bunny down a rabbit-hole before and I am so glad I don't have to do that any longer, just for today!
Love how you are working your program and I can so see the positive changes! Keep working it - it looks great on you!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
So needed to read that , thank you.
Declined the invitation to Lala land. Lightbulb moment .
I love accepting that invitation .. Lol . Battling this week with this exact issue,
Thank you.
. Thanks for sharing the journey