The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
It has been 3 months since I have spoke to him. I can not believe how much I miss him. I honestly feel that the pain will never go away. That I will never feel like I belong. Not like I do with him. Now I know how rediculous and emotional this sounds. I am jusy trying to work through all of this mess.
In your situation, I remember how difficult that was. I felt raw. With the help of my sponsor, I began making daily asset lists and gratitude lists. At first, they could hardly be called lists. I couldn't think of much I had. I had promised her I would do this daily, and it was my desire to feel better that allowed me to honor my promise.
They helped me see my good qualities. I narrowed the scope to me. Not easy.
I also found it so comforting to attend in-person meetings.
You can feel better. For me, I didn't notice feeling better until one day I realized I hadn't obsessed about missing him for maybe a few days or so. I hope not to go back to that impossible rut I was in.
I hear you and you are not alone. As Jill suggested, meetings sponsors, reading alanon literature and working the Steps acted as a powerful medicine to help me to recover and process the grief.
"Accepting" that I was grieving a major loss helped as well.
This too will pass.
I can completely relate with you. My Ex did a number on my heart. I just couldn't believe someone would treat another person that they claimed to love. Little did I know there is only one love he could truly have. In the end, the alcohol won, despite my attempts to stay.
I hope your heart heals soon. I'm still working on mine too.
I think alcohol pretty much wins in the end too.. it's sad actually. TV and Ads promote drinking like crazy. But they sure don't show the ugly side of it
I think alcohol pretty much wins in the end too.. it's sad actually. TV and Ads promote drinking like crazy. But they sure don't show the ugly side of it
