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My son's cremation is next Wednesday and I think I just about cried my eyes out.
I'm asking for a little prayer just to get through this next faze of grieving. Don't have anyone here to talk to and I'm feeling quite alone right now.
I hurt alot
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Cathy, you continue to be in my thoughts and prayers each day. Please try to set up a lovely memorial site in his honor as that helped me tremendously. Today, after 10 years I still visit it each day
(((Cathy))) sending prayers and strength your way. Think about a special Memorial place for your son that you can maybe go for serenity. We put up a flagpole and bronze marker for our Dads when they passed to honor them as WW2 veterans. The flag has a light shining on it so it is up 24 hrs. We also put in pots that we can put fresh plants. My husband and I enjoy going out and sitting with our Dads for morning coffee.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I have been lurking for awhile and I want you to know I lost my 34 year old son Sept . He had three years sobriety. His girlfriend broke up with him and he also took his life. I joined a grief support group and it does help. You are not alone in this. Sending Love from one mom to another.
Thank you all so much.....it keeps me sane coming here
Welcome to the board Gracelane, so nice to see you. I'm so very sorry for your loss of your beloved son. I found a grief support group in my area just haven't went yet but everyone is telling me I need to at least check it out because yes they do help.
Take care and keep coming back.... I know I will LOL
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
(((Cathy))) - I continue to send you prayers and positive thoughts. I'm another one that hopes you do find some support and comfort when you get to the grief support group.
Gracelane - I too welcome you to MIP. So very sorry for your loss too. Please keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Love and prayers for your peace, Cathy. I am so sorry about your heavy loss. "God grant me the serenity for accept the things I cannot change...." This helped me at a time of grief. WP
Sending prayers and hugs to you Cathy! If you need to meet for a coffee or a hug, please PM me. My nights are usually available. I live up off of Happy Valley Rd, west of the I 17. I will be out of town on Saturday until next Wednesday but other than that, I can make time. You are not alone.
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Never grow a wishbone where your backbone ought to be!
Cathy there are no words I can say to ease your pain. But there is some solace in knowing that others do care and there are so many prayers going out to the universe for him. And for you my dear! Get through tomorrow, cry as hard and as long as you feel you need to. Imagine all of us gathering around you and giving you a group hug. And take care of yourself.
Cathy, I will say a prayer for you. I lost my older brother to liver failure from this disease in December. Actually I lost him to this disease close to twenty years ago, but December made it irreversible. I too am feeling sad today which for me is probably a positive as prior to the last couple of weeks I was in crisis mode focusing on his wake, funeral, my mother, and his kids. Now I'm remembering and starting to mourn the boy and man and the relationship we had before this disease progressed to destroying so much of us. I wish you peace and please know you are not alone in your sadness.
Welcome to MIP John Brady - glad you found us and glad you joined. So very sorry for your loss - you are among friends here. Please keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
so sorry. sending hugs. glad you mentioned a group, it could be helpful to walk through this along others experiencing losses. so incredibly difficult. (((Cathyinaz)))
I have been thinking about you everyday, and praying. I never new how much a heart could really hurt until I lost my son. One day at a time but lately it is one hour at a time. I go for long walks and cry and cry all my neighbors know and just wave and tell me they love me. I wish I could give you a big hug, you are not alone. God bless.
Cathy, somehow I missed the original post about your son. My heart skipped a beat when I saw this, you've been through so much, and so has he. We just will never know completely what is going on in another person's brain, all we can do is love them and accept them where they are at.
I'm glad he is at peace now, and hope you can find peace too, in the meantime grieve.
