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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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The ODA T reading for April 27 speaks about the time when the alcoholic finally finds sobriety and our reaction to it. The reading suggests that we must withdraw from being the dominant role that we obtained while the alcoholic was drinking .
The reading asks will we try to cooperate with this miracle by continuing to solve our own emotional problems. We must know the alcoholic is conquering his compulsion to drink by growing spiritually and that our role in the recovery of the relationship must be to overcome our personal shortcomings so we can grow spiritually together.
If we really look at reality we can find we can no longer blame the alcoholic in our lives for our soul sickness, recklessness, restlessness and my feeling of inadequacy. We must accept our share of the responsibility for our troubles for I have learned in Al-Anon that many of them are rooted in my own imperfections.
I do believe that by keeping the focus on ourselves, using all our recovery tools, working the Steps then we are doing our part and that life will unfold in a positive fashion. Trust HP and keep the focus on ourselves.
I know it is a hard conceept to follow however when I learned to stop blaming and judging others and look at myself.my motives etc my life changed for the better. Program works when we work it
-- Edited by hotrod on Thursday 27th of April 2017 02:10:06 PM
-- Edited by hotrod on Thursday 27th of April 2017 02:10:48 PM
Thank you Betty - my day went a bit different than planned! The grand-babies are both sick so could not go to daycare! Add to that two active boys of my own and it's been a rough week for my serenity/sanity!
I am still waiting for my loved ones to find recovery so hard to say what I will do if/when that happens. What I know for me is that during peaceful phases and/or during the stormy times, I am best positioned if I just stick to my routine and my program efforts and stay with my routine as best I can.
I am a tired worn out person so am planning a nap before I get to go play softball tonight in the cooler weather....truly not thrilled but getting my attitude ready makes for the best outcome!
Program does work at all times if we work it. (((Hugs))) - so appreciate you stepping in for me today! You're a gem!!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you Betty for ODAT and for your service. Stepping aside when my RAH was ready to accept responsibility again was difficult at first. Sharing chores again wasn't too difficult but sharing parental responsibilities again took longer. This was the person I had to file for separation from and had restrictions placed so there would be no driving under the influence with the children. It also took time for the children to listen to their father again. Trust had been lost and it took time and patience for our RA to re-earn it. Thankfully working the program kept my mind focused and my thoughts clearer throughout the yransition. Alcoholism is a disease that seems to cause regressive behavior all around. I felt if my RA was growing again that it would be benificial if I worked my program and grew again too. Still much to learn and more to grow so I will always Keep Coming Back.
