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My first sponsor used to say, whenever I was in crisis mode, to just 'do the next right thing'. And, for me, sometimes that meant 'do nothing' or do the dishes, or fold the laundry, or whatever it was that was the next thing to do. I would get out of control and vent like crazy and go on and on about how I was wronged by my alcoholic or how indignant I was about what he was doing, etc.
Today, i still apply this to my life. Or sometimes I've learned that I don't have to be right. I pick my battles better. I am open to other people's perspectives. I work hard (VERY HARD) on acceptance. And, i still say, "what is the next right thing for me to do right now?"
I am 46 years old. My bf has 2 young children, ages 9 and 11. And, we recently talked about what I was signing on for with his young kids. Blending families is hard and it wears on me. But, using program has been pivotal to my sanity.
I am so grateful to program and what it has brought to my life!
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Great share andromeda - love, love, love it.....I can relate to all that you write and chuckled a bit....I am much the same! On the other side of the program, I heard early on to Clean House, Trust God and Help Others. Like most things, I took it literally! When I didn't know what to do with 'me', I would literally clean, clean and clean more. As I went about my chores I would ask is this what I am to be doing God? I've always been of service so just upped that a bit.
When life gets busy, I am so very grateful for what we are given in recovery. I can pause and consider who I am, what I'm doing and is it truly 'the next right thing'? This was so foreign to me before recovery it's amazing how simple it seems with profound results.
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Ha.ha.ha.ha........love him - sense of humor does make life a bit more pleasant! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
My first sponsor used to say, whenever I was in crisis mode, to just 'do the next right thing'. And, for me, sometimes that meant 'do nothing' or do the dishes, or fold the laundry, or whatever it was that was the next thing to do. I would get out of control and vent like crazy and go on and on about how I was wronged by my alcoholic or how indignant I was about what he was doing, etc.
Today, i still apply this to my life. Or sometimes I've learned that I don't have to be right. I pick my battles better. I am open to other people's perspectives. I work hard (VERY HARD) on acceptance. And, i still say, "what is the next right thing for me to do right now?"
I am 46 years old. My bf has 2 young children, ages 9 and 11. And, we recently talked about what I was signing on for with his young kids. Blending families is hard and it wears on me. But, using program has been pivotal to my sanity.
I am so grateful to program and what it has brought to my life!
I agree completely. I have long felt that doing the next right thing might not be about a particular or current situation or dilemma -- yes, it might be about folding the laundry, and then I focus on folding the laundry with a laser precision focus. That focus keeps my mind from wandering, obsessing about whatever the issue or person might be, and it allows me to get some new, clarity, perspective. Excellent points. Thanks for posting.
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God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
