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I haven't posted in awhile, but I have been reading and keeping up with you all. I have kind of crawled in a hole the past couple weeks. Haven't gone to meetings or talked much. I found out last thursday that a man I have known for five years and was once close friends with stole my identity and has been using it to further his career and thereby mess with mine. I can't get into details. But it makes me feel very victimized. Everyone told me I should sue him and I am. But it is a painful and arduous process. And of course the only person who isn't being 100% supportive is my A. He was friends with him too. He hasn't spoken to the guy in two or three years, so I can't imagine why he seems to be choosing this guy's side over mine. It makes me doubt myself, though I know in my heart I am right. Any support or ESH would be greatly appreciated.
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**Everyone is doing the best they can from day to day**
I have no experience to share here, but I will let you know that I support you.
Sometimes life can really throw us a curve but I can say this maybe your a thinks he is supporting you or maybe he is in denial but whatever the case, you don't need his approval, you need to worry about doing what make you feel right and what helps you to move on with your life.
Sorry you have to deal with this but Good Luck and know that their are people thinking about you and praying for you.
WOW!! Identity Theft! So sorry for that. You hear about it but think it couldn't happen to you. Ever since I found out about my husband's addictions, I have been very very cautious about money & credit. I have alerts set up for both his & my credit so if there are ANY changes, I am alerted by email IMMEDIATELY! - My reasons were to make sure he didn't take out any loans behind my back to get the $ he needs to support his habits.
You are absolutely right to sue. And I don't think you should allow your "A" to make you feel guilty for it. You are in the right! - You Go!!!
I am sorry you are going through such an awful mess. When we feel like working the program the least is when we probably need it the most. We are here for you.
i pray HP keeps you focused and strong. know that we love and support you in the decisions you make to take care of yourself, your home. no one should have to go through being victimized in such a cruel and heartless way. all of us work for years to build our credibility, character, our lives. to have someone disregard that and take advantage is too tremen dous to imagine. stick to your guns. make the other person understand it is not acceptable by any view. we are here for You. come and chat... or just listen..... we love you! ((BigHug))
Wow, that is scary... Good for you for taking legal action. I don't know what to say about your "a" they are so hard to figure out. Do what your gut and heart are telling you, HP will be on your side defending you. You'll be in my prayers.
Twinmom~
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"The people who don't mind matter and the people who mind, don't matter". (Dr. Seuss)
My a is not that supportive either when push comes to shove but he puts on a good show every now and again. I think that is indictive of their narcissism personally. I have learned not to really look for it that much from him anymore. I just keep quiet about my life.
I try not to be too involved with the A's friends. I am not uninvolved with them but I resist the desire to be around them. I also try to resist the idea of being friends or dealing with anyone who has a substance abuse history really I have had enough of it.
