The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
My AH relapsed last Monday after almost 9 months. He came to me and told me about it. We began to have the same old conversation that goes with the old way of life...."If you loved me"....etc. At some point just a few minutes in I was able to recognize the insanity and walk away from it! I have wondered how I would handle this situation if it ever came up. I was amazed at how much more confident I was in myself. Not to say that I didn't say some things I shouldn't have or react to the situation instead of acting. I forgot to pause for a bit, but then it kicked in and I realized how much this program has given me. I took my son to ball practice where I have an hour and a half to just hang out. I called my sponsor who is an AA as well as an Alanon. And in the next few days, my phone was filled with phone calls and texts from people just checking on me and supporting me. For the first time ever, I didn't have to face this crazy disease alone!! Wow!! I am so glad for the sisterhood of both programs!!
Great that you didn't let it overwhelm you, that you continued with your day as planned. We are very lucky to have the support of others in the program. Definitely, an incentive for me to keep attending my in person Alanon meetings. Wishing you continued progress on your recovery journey. TT
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Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.
(((Kim))) - love that you are using the tools and fellowship.....wiser than I people pointed out to me that none of the steps have I in them - all are WE....it does seem to feel a bit better when we are not alone...sending positive thoughts and prayers!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Nice job Kim! I love that you were able to acknowledge the positives from the situation. We're so good at identifying and acknowledging where we went wrong. Old way of thinking. Glad you're on the path of a new way of thinking.
Be gentle with yourself and continue to push forward. The answers will come.
Really good work working your program. I would have to say this is my greatest fear but having the tools in place I hope that I would handle this situation as good as you have. I do find it positive that your husband came to you with the truth. At least he didn't lie or try to hide it and hopefully he get back on the sober train soon. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. Thank you for your ESH.
