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Ugh. Had a very embarrassing incident last night with AH when we were out to dinner. I was angry, but realize I will need to set some boundaries for the future.
The good news for me is that I can see my program tools taking effect. At least for today. I woke up this morning thinking about last night, and rather than continue to fume and dwell......I told myself it is a brand new day and I need to let it go. I won't drag it into today to ruin my mood or attitude. I learned from it.....and have plans today with and without hubby that can always bring hope for a better day.
Seriously, without Alanon, I would be reliving last night's fiasco all day long and hubby would be suffering for it....and so would I. Practice, practice, practice!
(((El))) - sorry for whatever happened but good on you for leaning into the program and your new day!! May your Sunday be awesome, blessed and fun-filled....keep doing what you're doing - it looks really good on you!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I used to feel that when I let things go, I was giving permission or condoning behavior. I now see that by not letting things carry over to the next day, it is all about my serenity and self-preservation. At least for today, I was able to do it. I am just plain tired of his disease driving my moods. Like I said, I can see I am going to have to set some boundaries for myself when we are out.
I totally understand......as I've worked the program, and things come up, I too have modified or added boundaries. It's part of the process - as more is revealed and we work to heal, we get better at taking care of ourselves.
Glad that today was awesome! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
El,
Thanks for sharing. It is important to not dwell on things you cannot change. Letting go is not a sign of a weakness, it is a sign of strength. It makes me feel good when I know that Alanon is making a difference in my life.
