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The ODA T reading for April 2 speaks about the Al-Anon program working because it helps us to take the focus off of our pain and sadness. When we think constantly about our own grievances and blame the alcoholics,our minds are too confused to accept life, the beauty and joys that are al around us each day . If we stop worrying and concentrate on strengthening ourselves to accept each day as it comes along with all the joy and diffuses it might bring, we will also find that we will bring our our mind and emotions refreshed and cooled by working the 12 steps or slogans.
We are then better able to see our difficulties in the correct perspective. As we become less self-centered, even though we are still focusing on ourselves, we will have stronger defenses against being hurt by minor crisis because like it or not we will not allow ourselves to magnify the problem out of proportion
The prayer is; "I pray that I may grow in my ability to use each day, with poise, wisdom and a touch of humor With God's help I can teach myself not to turn little troubles into big ones.
Learning how to let go of the anger,resentment, fear and self pity took time and effort but was so worth it.
Thanks Betty for your service and the daily.....I feel ahead for the day since it's not midnight here yet - ha.ha.ha.ha.....
I know when I arrived, I was always making mountains out of mole hills. I also seemed to allow bad moments to multiply and before you knew it, I was having bad days that went well beyond one day at a time...
With the tools we get in recovery I have found it refreshing to see the facts in front of me and realize/recognize they only control me if I allow them to. I can let go and let God all day, every day and stay calmer and add value instead of more fuel to a fire! I admit I am a bit sad today, yet I did not let it fester up and take over. I will readily admit that I have days were I feel as if I don't have what it takes to treat this disease and it's affects, and then I am reminder of where I was and where I am today. One day at a time, one moment at a time, I've gotten through things I didn't think I could which serves to remind me I can and will be OK.
Have a great Sunday Betty!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks Betty.
I read an interesting perspective recently that said that worry was basically the worst of all of the sins, because not only does it keep us mired in our own destructive thoughts but it is also infectious and drags others into the same state. I like this and have sort of adopted it as a new mantra.
Thanks for the reminder to find the joy as well as the troubles.