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Hi all! I am a newcomer to all of this. I am currently dating for about 2.5 years an addict that is currently in longterm treatment. I have been going to Alanon meetings 4 days a week and they have been helping. I do read the books which are great. But i find myself having bad days, emotional days, etc. Even though he and his counselor has made it a point that us parting ways would be the worst idea as the counselor considers me a positive support system as I am the only one in the family that participates in alanon and finding groups to help the recovery process. I do not have a sponser yet and I am looking to find one asap. When is a good time to ask someone to be your sponser? Any advice would help! Xo!
Good morning. X I am pleased you have found Al-Anon and are attending as many meetings as you are. I know finding a sponsor is sometimes difficult and so when I asked the same question as you have, I was advised to go to a few meetings,keep an open mind and listen to people who shared a recovery that I admired. Right after the meeting I could then ask that person if they were available to sponsor me . I was not too take it personally,if they said "no" but then simply continue the process and attend meetings and listen for a person with recovery that I wanted. That worked for me.
I urge you to keep coming back here because the program does work
xla13ellavita - welcome to MIP - so glad you found us and so glad that you shared. I love that you've already started your Al-Anon journey. It is in Al-Anon that I found others who truly understood and offered me help/hope without ever judging me. I did feel I was safe to be me and to begin to heal/deal/feel as I aligned with the program, meetings, literature and steps.
It's perfectly right to have bad days or bad moments in days. We do encourage all to be gentle with self and to practice self-care. There is no wrong time to ask for a sponsor - if you see or hear someone that moves you, go ahead and ask.
If you have more interest in the steps, you can go to the top right and Betty (hotrod) is currently posting the steps, a new one about every 2 weeks. If you have interest in online meetings, you can go to the top left and the schedule and link to the meeting/chat room is there.
We encourage you to practice the program as best you can, at your own pace and embrace progress and not perfection. Keep coming back - there is hope and help always in recovery. (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
