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He is currently 125 days clean. I'm so proud of him! Yet I'm unsure about the future. Before I always knew what to expect when he was using and this is all new to me. He attendeds meeting 3x a week, daily talks to his sponsor And yet I get jealous over it when he trying to get better. I attenend my first al anon meeting last Saturday. It was nice to hear others that feel the same way I do. Guess I need to get over my!
Hi Shorty glad you attended your first Al-Anon meeting and would like to suggest that you keep coming back, because by working the steps, using the slogans and having a sponsor we begin to feel the support and understanding that the program can give.
I learned new constructive tools to live by and discovered that I could be happy regardless of what my husband did.
Welcome to the journey Shorty and good wishes and prayers for you and your AH as your start your separate journeys. We will suggest you take the focus off of him and put it solidly on yourself as you learn to do what is sound and right for you. It was a major accomplishment for me to take care of my own life without attempting to take care of hers also. Keep coming back. ((((hugs))))
Hello Shorty,
That is great your AH has been in recovery for that many days. It is not uncommon for spouse or significant others to have feelings of jealousy during this time period. The A has all of these people to help them cope while you or I are going through everything by ourselves. They get to be the center of attention for awhile. I have been in both roles because I am a recovering drug addict and I have an ex-A in recovery right now. It takes time to break the cycle of addiction. Many people have to learn new patterns of coping skills replacing years of old behavior. Alcoholism is a family disease and Alanon is great program because everyone has been through the same things. You can even get a sponsor for yourself.
Welcome to MIP Shorty and welcome to Al-Anon. Congrats. to your AH and may you both continue the recovery journey, one day at a time. I am quite certain that he too has no idea what to expect each day. Recovery is difficult whether you are the drinker or the loved one. Keeping things simple, and focusing on self will help you.
Keep going to meetings and keep an open mind. Keep coming back here too - there is hope and help in recovery!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
