The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
(Still on the road, didn't label my snips of my daily; could be C2C) Living with an alcoholic, drinking or not, calls for patience, acceptance and resolution. How do we get that/those? Or more of them? Today's page suggests it is by rejecting emotional attachment with new or existing problems.
Specifically, we can resist taking things personally that are said or done by others, and gain a more balanced perspective by reading AlAnon material.
Today's Reminder: Review progress with emotional detachement daily: did I do it when I could have, in a friendly or neutral way, or with attitude and a punishing motive? Would silence have been better, or an encouraging word?
"I pray for the enlightenment to make my detachment loving, not cruel. Let it not be a wall between us, but a bond of mutual rrespect for one another's individuality."
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Ah, the pages of AlAnon...so incredibly helpful in this daily evaluation; kicking me where I need a good kicking, but with wisdom and love.
Daily is important here for me as I can follow a pretty well managed day with one that I struggle mightily. I need to reboot the system every morning, reduce the size of my circle, and reestablish a healthy and respectful distance between the issues of my qualifier and my own.
I am working hard to move beyond silence into positive, supportive silence/minimal positive utterences...keep it simple, but lean it in a positive direction. AlAnon has helped me try this and see the powerful, positive effects this can have on my qualifier, but most importantly, on me.
I feel and respond so much better when someone slides me some positive mojo, and even silence has a definite attitude. Each day, AlAnon helps me see how I can continue improving, even in my silence...I am very grateful
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
Good Morning Paul Great shsre and reminder. Learning how to treat everyone with courtesy and respect by placing principles above personalities, helped me tremendously when facing up to my shortcomings. Thanks for your service Have a great day.
Hey Paul - hope your travels are great for you and to you! I too had to practice looking for similarities, placing principles above personalities and most of all - separating the disease from the person. All of this was hard for me as I was so black/white in my thinking. Allowing myself to relax and be LTP - Less Than Perfect - helped me realize we are all the same - imperfect doing the best we can with what we got.
I'm all about daily reflection - looking what went well and what I could have done different/better. I am grateful to have learned about one day at a time in recovery and that it really works when I work it!
I too send warm welcomes GailMac - glad you found us and glad you jumped right in!! Keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
