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Today's c2c discusses how daily application of our al-anon program helps us to become more patient and tolerant towards other people.
Partly, this comes about through examining our own inventories and beginning to recognise that the shortcomings we are so quick to point out in other people are very often our own! It points out that when we realise how innacurate our perceptions of our own behaviour can be, we realise that we can't possibly hope to know what the perceptions or motivations of another person are, or judge them according to what we think they intend.
The reading reminds us that learning tolerance and acceptance (of ourselves and others) helps strengthen our ability to relate to others.
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Learning to accept that our perspectives may be distorted or we may be guilty of the very things that drive us crazy in others, and then forgiving ourselves does indeed make it a lot more difficult to stand in judgement of others. It is sometimes astounding to me to see myself engage in behaviours- such as ignoring or trying to rush through whatever one of my qualifiers is trying to say (and hearing 'blah blah blah") when feeling ignored by them drives me absolutely crazy! It is indeed far easier to accept and love others and their imperfections when I accept myself as imperfect too. How very wrong I was I when I thought that the key to being liked/loved was to maintain the constant illusion of perfection (By reminding others of their failings). I love the way being honest and forgiving towards myself has helped me see and enjoy the wonderful qualities of everyone else in my life (without being blinded by my perception of their 'faults".
Good Morning Ms.M. This is a great reminder that when I am pointing finger one finger at a person then 4 are pointing back at me. I love the statement:"Spot it and you Got it" as well They are both examples of my actions before program . I would gossip about another, condemning them for their lack of priniciples and fail to see tht I too lacked the same principles thatI was holding others to.
Working the Steps and slogans, listening at meetings and on his Board, finally led me to the awareness that I needed to focus on my words, thoughts and actions to correct what I was doing that "hurt me" When I actually accepted that I was the author of my own misery, I began to heal because I let go of many of my destructive tools and embraced the positive ones of kindness, compassion and empathy.
One of the best gifts I received in Program was to be able to accept others opinions and not try to change them. Thanks for your service Have a great day
the shortcomings we are so quick to point out in other people are very often our own! (truth) .. in addition .. the shortcomings others point out in us are very often 'their own .. Great read .. thanks for sharing ..
They are both examples of my actions before program . I would gossip about another, condemning them for their lack of priniciples and fail to see tht I too lacked the same principles thatI was holding others to.