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I broke up with alcoholic boyfriend this morning. He's been treating me really badly lately & constantly lying about drinking. I told him last night that eventually he will need to choose between getting himself help and having me in his life. He cracked open a beer at 7.30am this morning and I just lost it. I said that I am not putting up with this anymore! I am so sick of his drinking and sick of the sight of his beer bottles and caps everywhere all over my house! He treats my house like a drop in centre and has no respect for me. He ended up storming off (standard response from him whenever he is criticised) and I told him that I am done and never ever giving him another chance. I'm not proud that I was so angry but I am just at the end of my tether and needed to do something. I have a 2 year old son I need to protect (not alcoholic's son, but from a past relationship). I cannot have my son growing up and thinking that drinking beer at 7.30am is normal. Or that treating women like s** is normal. He was supposed to be taking me out for dinner on the weekend and a part of me is sad that now I won't get to do the one thing I was looking forward to, as he never does anything nice. But I guess he probably would have found a way to ruin that too? He usually let's me down. Think I just need to move on be strong. We aren't living together or committed in any serious way, I guess I'm doing the right thing getting out now?
-- Edited by hotrod on Thursday 16th of February 2017 11:44:03 PM
((Saralin)) - I too am suggesting you lean into the program....perfect timing for you and where you are. Sending you positive thoughts and prayers!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene