The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Thank you to all who make this forum board what it is.
I've found the step board, and am starting to work through Step 1. I've printed out the step and all the questions, and am reading through the replies. Woke up stressed after a nightmare about AH this morning, and found comfort in the board. This is a big help when there are only meetings twice a week here, and the weather gets in the way of making it to the meeting.
I know this is going to be a lot of baby steps, but I'm thankful for the help and support to take them!
Hello RL I am so pleased that you are finding the support so necessary to recovering from living living with this dreadful disease. Remember we all benefit from sharing or experience, strength and hope. You have just contributed so well.
The Steps and slogans were the key to my recovery and I am happy that your found it
Thank you, Betty! This is all so new, and I admit, a bit scary. I'll admit, I've always been a controller. I've always wanted to know and plan what is going to happen. And it's very hard when I can't fix things. Like we are planning ahead three years the house we will be building on our lot. LOL This is going to be a major challenge to let things go, and take it one day at a time.
I do understand. Remember you only need to work the program " One Day at a Time "
It is OK to plan however projecting or living in the past or future keeps us out of our" present moment",where true change can happen.
Hey RL - keep doing what you are doing......it does work for us when we focus on the here/now! I too was a major control freak and it's been weird to truly be able to let go and let God. As Betty suggest, One Day at a Time carries me always!! Focusing on gratitude helps a lot too.
Glad you're here and working it....
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank YOU, RL...reading your posts and the material contributed in reaction to them helps me, too; I'm grateful for the fellowship shared here.
I've been thinking about staying in the moment a lot lately - it seems as though living in the past can be a good source of regrets, remorse, and depression and living in the future brings anxiety, fretting, and trying to force solutions. The only constructive place for me to be is in the present (not that I stay there...I'm in progress on this one), where I can respond to a situation in a way that is not destructive to me or those around me.
I can't forget about the past or future, though. The past helps me learn from mistakes I've made as well as things I've done right...and preparing for the future is appropriate, too, as long as I keep preparation in the realm of reasonable & rational rather than going overboard and turn it into an obsessive, aching worry.
I have heard that if I live with one foot in the past and one foot in the future I'm piddling on today. Seems like a little continence is in order for me.
Onward!
-- Edited by Suburban Denizen on Friday 17th of February 2017 09:07:19 AM
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
