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Happy Valentine's Day


Hi Everyone,

I wanted to drop by and wish everyone a very happy valentine's day.  I haven't been around the board much but I have been working my program a lot with my sponsor.  I have been working step four and it's been difficult to do that so I'm taking it slowly.  This valentine's day helped me reflect on how far I feel that I have come with my recovery.  On past valentine's days I would go overboard and do so much for other people and I would feel I would get very little in return.  It always left me sad and disappointed.  In fact I could make myself downright miserable.  I can see my part in all of that now.  I should only be doing the things I truly want to do for the people I love with no expectations of anything in return.  I am grateful for what I do have and I am working not to compare my day with anyone else's valentine's day.  Today I surprised my family with a nice little treat for each of them.  I didn't go overboard but I did something I really wanted to do.  And the smiles on their faces at the surprise was reward enough for me.  I treated myself to my favourite coffee this morning and I got a nice card from my AH and my daughter.  And that is enough.  Instead of focusing on comparisons and expectations I'm focusing on all the love I do have in my life and how grateful I am for it.  Thanks HP! :)

 

Wishing you lots of love and happiness today! 



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Back @ ya - I knew there was something I forgot to say when I stopped by earlier!!! Happy Valentine's Day to one and all! (((Hugs))) - you are all my valentine in my heart!!

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Happy Valentines to all of you. Your love and concern is priceless. Since Valentines day was my wedding day for me and my XAH.. I have made a vow to myself that I will try very hard to stop bringing up my X to my sweet new boyfriend.
not doing anything special. my guy taking me food shopping.
love all of u
alyce

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Wonderful share, KT.   Happy Valentine's Day to you and all here at MIP!

Like you, I am working on doing what is in my heart and meaningful, rather than overdoing, subconsciously (and consciously I guess) looking for accolades.  I have gotten much better at checking my motives and only putting energy into what is meaningful for me and others at an effort level that isn't over the top; thus leading to disappointment.

It is so powerful to be grateful for what is.....not what I think it should look like.  

Thanks for coming back to share, always great to "see" you!

Hugs - Ellen

 



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Happy Valentine's day All.  Great awareness KT and shares



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I had forgotten this was Valentines day till this morning when my wife showered me with all kinds of confections which will take me a couple of months to wade thru if ever.  I was and still am very very tired because our remaining pup Sadie was up all night unable to sleep and be calm...don't know what that is about and it might be cause of the loss of Chloe.  Any how when I got up 2 hours past normal there it all was and I am wondering what's going on.

Happy Valentines to the family...with (((((LOVE)))))   confuse

 



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Happy Valentines ((((((((((Alanon Family))))))))))

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ONE DAY AT A TIME!

 

 

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