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madowl86


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So sad and depressed tonight after learning my ABF (ex ABF?) is talking to another girl. At this point I'm pretty certain he's playing both sides of the fence and the girl won't talk to me. I am going crazy over not seeing the messages he has sent to her. I returned all his belongings but am having a VERY hard time sticking to my guns. I am so so hurt. He said he wanted time apart to work on his sobriety. I gave him what he was asking for. He has been staying at his apartment more (he had been staying with me) but stayed with me Friday night. I am so shocked and sad. It's just not fair. I stood by him through his ugliest moments and this is how he treats me.

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((madow)) Positive thoughts on the way

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madowl86


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Thanks, hotrod. Just needing some encouragement tonight. :(

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(((madowl86))) - so sorry for your pain - I too am sending you thoughts and prayers....I was told early on that when one feels rejection, that it's actually God's protection. Be gentle with you and do something relaxing just for you!!

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I am sorry for your pain. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but I pray you will find peace with your decision and will give happiness the opportunity to enter your life.

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Stick to your guns beautiful woman. Its OK to get mad, but then get over it. It's honestly not worth the pain. Get your life together what ever that looks like, love yourself and think about the future. You are better than you think, take care of yourself you are worth it....



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