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Well, my gut got to me yesterday. We haven't heard from our AS since he wanted us to come get him last week. Apparently he changed his mind because after about 45 min he texted his dad "never-mind". So that is when my mind started to swirl with visions. I know he is living is a very dire situation. I don't even know if they could leave if they wanted to. Rumor has it that in trade for living accommodations he and his girlfriend are having to do unspeakable things. I had this feeling in my gut since November when they moved there. I tried to push it out of my mind but when I heard (rumors) I couldn't sit down and do nothing. I contacted an acquaintance at the Sheriff's department for advice. She gave me some options and did say that the mom gut feeling is worth listening to. She took all my information and is moving forward with getting me answers. She is keeping me out of it as much as she can. Will my AS be furious at me if something happens? Most likely; I just need to know that he is okay. He has also had very high Blood Pressure (150/99) Heart Rate (142). So not only am I concerned about his living conditions I am concerned about his health. Will anything come of it, maybe not, maybe so. Will he get into recover; probably not. I prayed and prayed about this, it was still heavy on my heart. I couldn't get peace. So I acted. Did I do the right thing, maybe not, maybe so. Do I have a little peace; just a little. Do I have hope; just a little. Do I think it will come back to slap me in the face; just a little. So bottom line; I did what I did for me and hopefully him. If it ends up helping him then my prayers will have been answered.
((Tannersmom)) I so understand and agree that the actions that you were guided to take sound reasonable. Positive thoughts and prayers continue. Please keep us updated
There is no right or wrong decisions when it comes to our loved ones. We only can make the best decision at the time with the information we have after pausing and reflecting and seeking guidance. It sounds like you did that and then acted accordingly to what was best at that time. When I have acted in certain situations I did the best that I could and tried to let go of the outcome. My prayers to you and your son.
Beth - sending you positive thoughts and prayers. Hang in there!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
