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Sad and heart hurts and I'm angry...


 

 

Just put one of our pups in the ground; Chloe the black fuzzy wuzzy one.  I am angry cause when my wife got the pup my codependence raised it's head and I started saying "No...I don't want this...I know how this goes and how it comes out"  and now, this morning the prophecy has come about.  She was my wife's dog and I know how pet responsible I've been in the past.  She got a back injury on top of having too much fluid in her lungs and heart and she was in pain and I held my wife responsible for the outcome knowing what that would be because my wife doesn't like financial worry.  I feel so powerless knowing what would come and what my part in it would be as comforter to Chloe and also her interment worker.  

She's laying in the front yard under the grass on an elevation where she can see down the roadways and even the horizon and sea line.  She was a protector and I didn't want to block her view.  Later this evening I will offer a chant over her grave out of care and love and no other reason.  She was a very good little pup. I feel like when I let go of my alcoholic/addict wife.....very sad.   ((((hugs))))) no



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I am so sorry to read of the loss your precious pup Jerry. Chloe was very fortunate to share her life with you and your spouse and it sounds as if you selected a beautiful resting place for her. I am sending you many hugs and positive thoughts for all the love you share.

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Jerry, I know how you feel. I'm so sad for you.

I've had to put two down in the last year-and-a-half. The two that are now in my profile pic are relative newcomers in the household. I'm familiar with that prophecy, yet we just keep getting them, and letting them tug our heartstrings, then having to let them go. They are well worth the hurt that caused when we do have to let go, but it still sucks. Sucks big time.

You'll be in my prayers tonight


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Dear Jerry, If I could I would stand beside you offering my own chant for all that was part of knowing her. We swear never again because the pain of loss is so great, good thing HP knows better and brings us another in His own good time. Having loved and loving one is infinitely better than never knowing them.

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I am so sorry Jerry. Brought tears to my eyes when I read your post. We love our fur kids so much that it hurts at times.

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((Jerry)), I'm so sorry for your loss.



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I am so sorry. Her resting place sounds perfect!  Hugs to you.



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I'm so sorry Jerry .. Hugs ..

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(((Jerry))) - so sorry that Chloe has moved on to her next journey - what a lovely place you parked her for it!!! I am so sorry for the hurt in your heart - a loss is a loss and to grieve is not pleasant but healing. May you and yours all be reminded of the joy Chloe brought into your life and that be what remains at the end of your grieving journey.

Sending you hugs, positive thoughts and tons of prayers. I know all too well the loss of a loved pet....hang in there my friend and brother from another mother.

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Mahalo to my MIP Ohana for the care and love that is normal here and with all of you.  Took Sadie, Chloe's sister out for the morning walk and she was sad also walking with her nose to the earth, head bent and slowly.  I had a reaction idea of getting another pup and then jabbed myself because this isn't what I wanted from the start...these creatures cause me to feel responsible all of the time I am a caretaker extreme.  Trying to find the good in this...trying.  Going to start with gratitude.  That always works.  Again Mahalo.   Prayers and Hugs to the family and John.   ((((hugs))) smile



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I'm so sorry (((Jerry))))  This process of letting go of our innocent loving pets is one of the toughest.  Wishing you and your wife healing. TT



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So sorry for your loss (((Jerry))) I too had to help my best friend of 17 years over the Rainbow Bridge last week. I know in my heart it was the best decision as he was having seizures and was in pain. Doesn't make it easier though, feel like I am missing my shadow. I am thankful for many wonderful years with my little buddy and I hope you too will find fond memories

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Those lovely pups fill up so much in our lives, it is a gift to know and love them and the lessons they have taught me are legion. When they leave us, they leave a hole and our learning continues, even though we think that they've left us. It sounds like a beautiful resting place and a wonderful spot of remembrance for you all.

Sending hugs to Chloe, Sadie, you and your family.

PS . Have you seen the story about the child explaining why our dogs leave us so soon? It is along the lines of 'Since we are put on this earth to learn about love and compassion our dogs must already have huge reserves of these loving qualities because they don't need to stay here nearly as long as we do.'

Sending love Jerry.

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Mahalo Milkwood that softens he blow.  This like spontaneous insanity for us time to time and we work at being rational and freely letting go rather than false attempts at courage...My wife selected tea roses for around her little grave which is a nice touch to honor the pup who sheltered us daily.  smile



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