The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The ODA T reading for February 5 speaks about identifying how we feel and what we can do when we uncover some of our negative qualities.
Working the Steps and attending meetings often allowed me to identify many of my negative attitudes and see that they were actually hurting me by blocking my positive qualities . The reading suggests that we must acknowledge these good qualities by making a daily gratitude and asset list so that we can see and appreciate these good qualities and can accept that these qualities are going to offset the faults we find and will give us a foundation on which to grow.
. If we recognize that we are kind, tolerant, generous, honest, patient, we must delight in these constructive qualities so that we can accept ourselves as a friend. They are mighty allies in eliminating shortcomings, which are the roadblocks to our serenity.
The purpose of examining our character with as much honesty and detachment as possible is not to exaggerate or guilt but to use the goods to overcome our faults.
The prayer is; "let me learn to understand myself first that will occupy me so fully that I will have no time nor thoughts to analyze and criticize the compulsive drinker"
I love the principles of this program . I have leaned to accept myself ,my positive and negative attributes because I now have the tools to grow and change and a Higher power to direct my life.
Thank you Betty for your service, the daily and your ESH. I came to recovery always negative, sad and looking at the glass 'half empty'. It is only by the grace of God, the steps of this program and a loving sponsor that for the most part - that glass is half full. I do believe for me that acceptance and gratitude carry me for a huge portion of my program. When they slip from my spirit, I am armed with the tools to do the heavy lifting and find a new level of love, light, gratitude and acceptance each time.
Grateful for MIP, Al-Anon, Recovery and some lovely sunshine today!! Make it a great day - enjoy the super bowl if you plan to watch (or puppy bowl or kitty bowl)!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Hotrod--your synopsis on the page of day is so appreciated--really enjoy your take on the tools/principles offered. I love the reference to detaching from our shortcomings too---it took a long time for me not to take them personally. So much shame & blame was in my way but through the step work HP has really lifted it--- so most times I am able to look honestly at myself, my motives and bring self compassion to my slip ups. --thanks again for your ESH on it!
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Wishing all the best on your recovery journey, Luv
