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Dell22


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hmm  I was dating a man who is an alcoholic.  He had blackouts and left for two weeks to go to an old girlfriends.  After he returned home he has been calling me constantly and is saying he is attending AA.  But I know he has bee drinking and is denying it.  Yesterday was the last straw.  I told him he was a drunken a$$o and I refuse to take any more calls.  I think I was wrong to even talk to him after that but he said he has lung cancer and I think it is a lie and he just wants my sympathy.   Am I wron



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KennyFenderjazz


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Hi Delilah,

You might have been cut off, so I didn't know your question. But likely I don't know the answer to your question anyway. Only you would know the answer. If you can go to an Al Anon fave to face meeting, you can get help that can help you to answer that question.


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Alcoholics have a way of saying many things to get our attention. Especially if it will bring us back into their lives. I refuse to be a caretaker.

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Dell22


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Sorry I meant was I wrong to end the relationship?

 

 

 



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Dell22


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And Yes Kenny I know the answer.  I guess I feel kinda sad because I did care but now I just feel empty.   Time to move on.



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Hello Dell Welcome Please do search out alanon face to face meetings and attend Here you will find the support and understanding you need at this time so you can break the isolation caused by living with the insanity of the disease and develop new tools to live by in the process. Keep coming back here as well . You are not alone

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Hiya Dell - welcome to MIP....glad that you found us and glad that you shared. I also suggest finding Al-Anon meetings - that's where I found others who had been affected by the disease of alcoholism present in a family member or friend. Just knowing I wasn't alone and hearing the ESH (Experience, Strength & Hope) of others gave me support that I desperately needed.

Please keep coming back - there is hope and help in recovery!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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Thanks all for the encouraging words!!!

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