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So my AexBF seems to be willing to go to rehab, however I know he will not go unless he knows that he wont have to worry about bills while he's gone and when he gets back. His parents will pay for the rehab, but it's the bills at the house that I cannot afford nor do I think it's my responsibility as I don't live there anymore (that's a different story in itself as his mother thinks I should be paying that). Does anyone know if there are programs out there to help financially while someone is in rehab so that they actually have a home to come home to???
That is a lot of responsibility for you, when it is his recovery. He can call social services or community action groups. They help if he has been given an eviction notice, but he has to go there himself.
If he has a job...FMLA...short term disability. If not, oh well...He will die from addiction and not be able to pay his bills either. But as stated above, this is for him to figure out.
All we can do is ask the questions like u are doing, pass on info and let go. They told me to Keep coming back, keep asking how others detach and reading the literature and it really did save me from getting pulled into the dramas. One thing I know for sure is that it is possible for you to find contentment and even happiness whether he goes or not and whether his mom thinks that or not. All that stuff that runs through our minds when triggered can be maddening, but if you keep coming you will find the answers and tools to give you peace no matter what. There is a lot of hope out there for the A, I hear it by attending the open AA meetings and hearing successes---but ALL of them only got it when they were truly ready and WiLLING---not necessarily when it was made convenient to go to rehab. STAY STRONG
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Wishing all the best on your recovery journey, Luv
VVV, paying his bills and looking into financial help is part of HIS recovery. Taking care of yourself is part of YOUR recovery, LET GO and stay on your side of the street. The best to you and Peace, keep coming back ........ linsc
