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Hi I'm new here. I am working on the 12 step book questions but I am having problems finding a sponsor. I had one person that insisted on doing it with me but I have asked her to meet 3 times and she has not responded so I am moving on from there. In the group I am in I say very little and I have been going for about 2 months now. I am wondering how do you go about finding the right person for you. I want someone consistent and really wants to do it not just say they want to.
Just need some advice. I have read some information on the web but am just needing clarity on what I need to do to find someone who is right for me.
Hi Piper Welcome Finding a sponsor is sometimes difficult. I listened at meetings to hear members who had embraced the principles of the program and who implemented them in their daily lives. I did observe that many could "talk the talk " but did not walk the walk I Identified someone who was consistent in her shares and had time in the program. I asked and we connected. Give that a try.
We have a Step Work Board here that members use to develop their understanding of the Steps Here is the linK: http://stepwork.activeboard.com/
I too send warm welcomes to you Piper - glad that you found us here at MIP and glad that you joined us and shared. My experience is similar to Betty's - I watched at meetings and then approached someone that I thought could help me grow/learn/heal. My best suggestion is 'take it easy' - when it's meant to be, it will happen. I have been one who wants what I want when I want it - which caused me anxiety and self-will trying to force solutions. I learned in this program that wasn't always in my best interest for genuine healing and growth...
(((Hugs))) - keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
