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After my meeting with my AS 2 Saturdays ago, I felt strong and confident in my boundaries and my feelings toward him. It only took 1 week for me to start worrying and longing for him. Sadness is creeping back into my heart. I am finding myself consumed with him again. I can't stand this stupid disease. I need ESH today more than ever. I can't afford to slip backwards. Thanks, Beth
Hi I found alanon face to face meetings and contact with alanon members invaluable when I began to slip. This is a one day at a time program so that each morning I need to remind myself that I am powerless over people,. places and things and that H P is in control.
It is progress not perfection that we seek and that I can pray and not worry
Tannersmom the direction (only one of them) to practicing the program is work it daily, one day at a time so that we learn that different way of living we need in order to gain and maintain our peace of mind and serenity. If we don't we go back to what it was like in the beginning. In support. ((((hugs))))
This disease is cunning, baffling and powerful and I had to face that fact when I was battling it. I had to have a strong program which meant to me I had to attend meetings as much as I could, read the literature and talk with close friends who understood and my sponsor, there were no shortcuts. Until I armored myself with these things, I was no match. I pray for your stength and courage to not slip and be strong. You are not alone keep posting and reading as much as possible. linsc
I can so relate to where you are.....and agree with those above me - my only peace and relief came when I went to meetings, worked the program, shared with others and stayed focused on me. I reminded myself often that my son(s) have their own HP and it's not me.
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Easy does it. Unless your in recovery then i think a slip or slips are inevitable. if alcoholism is a family disease and we are all effected then we also have the obsession, the addiction, only not for alcohol but the alcoholic. Its only been a spiritual journey with alanon that has freed me and even then ive got to work it really hard at times or im right back obsessing, living life through my son, living in the miserable negative world of what ifs with no higher power. Our sons have their mistakes to make and they are none of our business. They have a higher power even if they dont know it and its bigger than us and will give them the proper consequences that done even belong to us. I hope to one day get tired enough of worrying about my son because its such a waste. Todays courage to change is perfect for this topic. Thank you for sharing and i hope you get alanon in your life, for your sons sake as well as yours.
