The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
So as the title says, my program thinking helped me turn my attitude around.
I needed an operation a week or so before Christmas. I had been a few weeks before for the consultation and at that time, it seemed to me that most people in the waiting room had their partner with them for support. They probably hadn't but that was my perception at the time.
I was given the operation date, I started to sink into a pity party of how I was going to attend it on my own. No supportive partner with me. Woe is me. I wallowed for a while.
Suddenly realised I thank God that I would be attending on my own. If AH had come along it would not have been a support, it would have been a huge source of stress and anxiety to me.
So instead, I was able to attend feeling peaceful and stress free. Have operation without worrying about drunk AH in waiting room getting more and more wound up, drunk from day before (op was at 9am) oh etc etc. I dont need to explain, you all know.
I remember as a child I had an op. Well untreated al-anon mum and A dad came with me. It was horrendous. Their behaviour, I mean. Thank goodness as an adult I don't have to take people like that with me.
Firstly, hugs. A couple of years ago I had my wisdom teeth out around this time of year and I remember crying in the waiting room because another lady was there with her husband raving about what a great support he was to her. I hadn't even bothered to tell my XA that I was going for basically the same reasons that you describe.
Yay for you for seeing your strength and enjoying your serenity.
And hugs; I hope you are recovering quickly and well!
((CL))
Many thanks, MissM. Thanks for your response and understanding. People who have not experienced this disease wouldn't understand that having someone there would actually be far more stressful and disruptive than going on your own.
I am recovering well, thank you. Happy New Year to you.
Hey i hope your recovery continues to go well. I love the grace of this post. Sending you lots of supportive vibes and yes happy new year. ((calm lady))
((Hugs calm Lady )) Thanks for such a powerful post and for indicating just how a situation can turn around when we are present, and move from awareness to acceptance and action. It is indeed the message that we tell ourselves that are important.
i am sending positive thoughts and prayers for a speedy recovery.
(((Calm Lady))) - my hope and prayer for you is that you are on the mend....I totally understand - in my world here, if my AH does NOT want to be 'there', it's several notches above non-bearable. I am so glad you were able to use your program and recovery to get through to the other side. Our program works miracles for us when we work it - thanks for a great share and Happy, Healthy, Serene and Sane New Year to you too!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
