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Hi. I have been in recovery rooms since 2006 in different fellowships. Lately, I have experience serious troubles in my relationships. My former partner of a year has assaulted me. I ended up in hospital. I decided to press charges with the police and he admitted assault to his son too in my home a month earlier. He was in court and bailed on based he ll get 5 years if he re-offends again. I understand from his family he used to hit his previous partner but no charges were ever pressed. This happened in October. He liked drinking and i saw him in one occasion completely plastered in drink and it was a horrible experience. All of his friends would do that ... i didn t realize he had serious issues. How after this long in recovery I didn t see the red flags? I was under shock (physical too) for 6 weeks at least. Now I need to overcome emotional and psychological burden. My sponsor lovingly suggested Alanon could help. Any loving support would be highly appreciated. I will be joining a local meeting too. I don t seem to have found a skype meeting online (i live in remote area in Surrey/England). Blessings. Daniela
Hello Daniela - welcome to MIP. So glad that you found us and glad that you shared. So sorry for that which brings you here. I was in recovery (AA) for a long, long while and still found myself needing Al-Anon recovery to deal and heal from the affects of alcoholism in ones I love. It's a subtle, progressive disease and we are shown what we need to know when we need to know it!
You know from recovery that we try to stay focused on one day at a time - today. The past is already gone and we can't change it. There is no need to look back beyond learning and growing from what we've experienced. Recovery in Al-Anon helps us see the reality around us, and put our needs first - which for many is not how we were living.
We do have meetings scheduled here twice daily - look to the top left for the schedule and a link to the chat/meeting room. Local meetings will be great too - that's where I found local support and fellowship. There is hope and help in recovery - keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Aloha Daniela and welcome to the MIP Family. You received that part of the disease regarding physical trauma and alcohol will and does affect us physically each and every time it is consumed and you suffer the consequence of the mental affect too. I learned they cannot drink without the mind going messed up. Alcoholism is named a fatal disease and quite often that is and can be because the drinker looses all control over their mind, emotions and behaviors and another victim takes the consequences...I know this from my own experiences as alcohol use to almost always cause me to rage which was a consequence of me loosing control of myself.
Please keep coming back often and listen for the suggestions like the face to face meetings and the literature and use of a sponsor. It will take time and that time will be very well spent. (((((hugs)))))
