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Hello, I am new at this so please bare with me. I am in a place where I no longer want to be. I am so tired of being mentally abused by my husband that it is unreal. I , as of right now can not leave the situation i am in because of lack of money, but saving to leave. I have a young adult at home with a young daughter and her dad is very abusive to her also, he doesn't want anything to do with her because she is a little person, and favors the oldest daughter. After my first grandson passed away that is when I changed, for the better. I have been called every name in the book to where I no longer care or love him and all he thinks about is himself. He has pushed every friend I made with him away talked bad about me to them to where they all said he was right and I was wrong. Called me names in front of them tried to pick fights with me belittled me in front of them and behind my back called me the names he says to my face about me. I have no one anymore he has seen to that. If I were brave enough I at times would end it all but then I would miss my grandkids and I also know that is not the answer at all. Just want to be happy again and not yelled or belittled or even cursed at. I leave the room and try not to argue,trying to be the bigger person while he follows me and continues his ranting. I just don't care anymore about anything. Just done with it all. Thanks for letting me get this out. Can't write it down for he goes through my room and reads all of my thoughts and twists them to try and make me feel like a bad person and it's all my fault. Thanks again I truly appreciate it.
Welcome Cherly You are not alone and i am so pleased that you reached out and shared your concerns. I am sorry to read of the loss of your grandson and of the difficulties that alcoholism is causing in your life. NO doubt you know that alcoholism is a chronic progressive disease over which we are powerless.
There is hope because there is a recovery program,Alanon, that was established to aid family members who live with the disease. Alanon holds face to face meetings in most communities and the hot line number is in the white pages. It is here that we learn to break the isolation caused by living in the insanity of the disease and develop new tools to live by. Please check for the hot line number in the white pages and keep coming back. You are not alone
(((Cheryl))) - welcome to MIP. So sorry for the circumstances you find yourself in and am glad you found us. Glad that you also shared your story...
I am not sure but am guessing that you found your way here because someone you love has a problem with alcohol and it's affecting your life too. I encourage you to attend Al-Anon meetings - just for you. You can find a safe place to share + support from others who've been affected by alcohol in another person - family or friend.
Please keep coming back - there is hope in recovery and help too. Sending you positive thoughts and prayers for peace.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Aloha Cheryl and welcome to the family...the real loving family. There is so much to be shared with you and so much more to learn from us. So many of us have been where you are at now and learned how to change it in many ways. I would suggest you go look up Al-Anon in the white pages of your local telephone book and call that hot line number to find out where and when we get together in your area. Don't know if you drive or have facility to travel however getting to the face to face meetings of the AFG will help you so much. Keep coming back here and reading the shares presently and from the past it will be helpful. ((((hugs))))
