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Does anyone else have obsessive or Impolsive behaviours? I have found I impulse shop if I'm feeling anxious, down or if I just have a thought. I'm also this way with sugary sweet things. Also thank you for the warm welcome.đ
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Yes, I have noticed that I fixate on one thing. When I'm doing that though, I let everything else slide.
Ie: I obsess over clean eating. Will cook a weeks worth of healthy meals/snacks/smoothies... but my laundry has been forgotten.
Or I clean clean clean my house until it sparkles, but I have slacked off entirely at work. The obsessing helps me fixate on something meaningless and avoid the negative feelings and emotions I have.
Recognizing it is the first step towards fixing it.
Living with the disease of alcoholism many of us develop negative coping tools in order to attempt to maintain our sanity. Alanon face to face meetings offer new tools to live by an a suppportive network of members who understand as few other can.
Please search out these meetings and obtain literature that will truly enlighten you regarding our negative reactions and provide new tools to live by.
I do and I just realized it the other day. I was texting with my ex ABF and he said something that put me in a spin and I text back something very manipulative back. When I looked back at the text I was in shock at what I had said. After realizing what I had done it made me think about more times I had done the same thing and I was totally unaware of it. I was a mess I cried all day. Don't get me wrong I'm grateful that I can recognize it now. That's the first step in making changes so I don't do things like this again, but I was crushed to see myself like that. I know I am sick I guess I just did not realize how sick I was. I have been so focused on my A sickness that I could not see my own. I'm learning and that's something I have to be grateful for. Stay strong come here go to meetings. HUGS
I too came to recovery with obsessive thinking and often reacted impulsively. As Betty suggests, the program has given me a host of new tools to explore which help me Pause to formulate more healthy thoughts around every situation, event, interaction, etc. When I arrived, I felt I was in a perpetual battle against most people, situations, etc. What I discovered is that battle was in my own mind, and there were steps I could take to change my attitudes and thoughts which then result in new/better outcomes.
I can still obsess however I am less likely to do this for long. The sooner I realize the negative pattern in my mind the sooner I can let it go and trust God with the outcome.
Good question - recovery can certainly help with these types of patterns for those who want it! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
