The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
and thank you for all the well wishes regarding my move. We are starting to get settled and the whole house is calming down after a stressful end-of-summer and fall!!
This reading is about how it may be possible to hear what is difficult for us to hear directly from family members, when we are at meetings listening to other share. The writer says that he/she is often too defiant to hear family members' directly from them. This made me smile because in my family- each persons WILL BE HEARD!! No one seems to have a problem expressing themselves or having others hear them. In my case, i don't think I always hear MYSELF and in that regard it is helpful to be at a meeting, hear someone speak and realize, 'oh yes, that is me too'.
i like the idea of moving away from sitting in judgement of others- As, people who love and/or live w As, and move toward compassion. I know that working my program helps me do that.
I hope everyone enjoys their first day of November!
Helo Mary I am glad that the move went well and that you are settling in.
I do believe that listening to others, at a meeting helps me to go inward and identify with what is shared easily because i am there with an open mind . While interacting with loved ones I have my own agenda and a closed mind . I am learning to listen and learn even outside the room and it works beautifully. Thanks for your service.
Thank you Mary for your share, the daily and your ESH. I too am glad the move is done and you are settling! I can't believe it's November 1st and we've still got some lovely weather in my world. It's so nice to walk the dog in a shirt and shorts vs. multiple layers and breezy coldness!
Our dynamics here were a mess. All 4 of us were wanting to be heard so much that we never stopped talking to listen to another. I have heard things in meetings, and because I was told to listen and keep an open mind, I hear better there than before for sure. As I now believe my HP speaks to me and through me always, I have become a much better listener and am grateful.
It is in listening to others that I found I was not alone nor unique. It is in listening to others that I've learned how to truly accept others and focus on me. It is in listening to others that I found many tools and ways to serve others to relieve the bondage of self we often acquire from living with this disease.
Grateful for all the tools in recovery and grateful for MIP! (((Hugs))) to all - Happy Tuesday to one and all!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
