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Post Info TOPIC: Courage to Change (C2C) 10/28/16


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Courage to Change (C2C) 10/28/16


Today's daily reading is all about the golden rule - treat others as you would like to be treated.  The reading discusses how simple it is for us to slip back into old attitudes towards others.  It talks about how our impatience with others can lead to impatience with ourselves as well as the world.  Also, when we are unkind to someone, we tend to get defensive and expect others to be unkind to us.  However, when we accept others unconditionally, we find that the whole world feels safer.

We learn in recovery that it's so much better to treat others as I wish to be treated.  In the long run, we often find that we get back what we give out.  If we are unhappy with what we receive from others, we need to look at our own behaviors.  It may not be like for like, but we usually can find that what we dislike in others we also dislike in ourselves.  The same is true in reverse.

The reminder today suggests there is something to be learned in every interaction we have.  We are asked to make a special effort, just for today, to note of attitudes given and received because both can teach us about ourselves.

The quote of the day comes from Ralph Waldo Emerson ---- "Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not."

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It took me a while in Al-Anon to truly understand and practice treating others as I wanted to be treated.  I often considered myself better than or less than others, and it showed in my attitudes, words, outlook and body language.  My frustration with the disease often came out targeting my qualifiers and I had to accept with as much grace and humility as I could muster up that they did not choose to have this disease nor did they really want it.  

When I became more understanding and patient, our home life relaxed quite a bit.  While they still were doing what alcoholics do, I was not reacting to it or spouting off about what they should do, think, say, be.  When I practiced and embraced unconditional love and accepted them as they are in this moment, my head and heart finally aligned and more was revealed for me.

It is only through a power greater than I that I was able to respond with kindness or indifference to utter chaos and insanity.  I had tried with self-will and controlled thoughts to not 'go there' and yet, time and time again, I found myself fighting everything and everyone.  When I began working the program, the steps and the traditions and concepts, it became a necessary step for my personal growth instead of a chosen behavior I tried.

Happy Friday to one and all!  May your day be awesome and your beauty shine through in all you do.  Grateful for recovery, MIP and this glorious day we are given to do with as we see fit!!



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Hi IAH, Thanks for sharing your thoughts on today's reading. I am so grateful to program that I learned to stop "Reacting" and to "respond" in all situations.

When I reacted ,I picked up the other persons negative energy and acted accordingly-- In "responding" I found that I have a choice and can " respond "with courtesy and kindness while still validating myself. How great is that
Have a great day



-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 01:04:48 PM

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Lovely share Betty - you have a great day too! We are again having lovely weather that's more like summer than fall - I'll take it! I've got ball for the next 4 days straight and so would rather play with fair/nice temperatures than the cold!

Make it a great day!

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Hope you win Good Luck

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Thanks....I'm just hoping to survive....winning is a bonus at this point of the year!!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 



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I hear you and believe you will 

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(((Hugs))) Betty - there are times of the day especially this time of year where I truly wonder....I am feeling it today because I played outfield last night. Way too much running for my preferences! Gotta keep telling myself there is no I in TEAM!!!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 

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