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I've been with my bf for 6 years and we have a family together. He has been an alcoholic since he was 14, 21 years. When we first met we had fun. Going out for dinner and drinks, etc. I never paid attention to his drinking at that time because it wasn't causing trouble for our relationship. There have been so much in our relationship that has caused a terrible strain and alcohol seems to always be around when we have a problem. I am not an alcoholic but enjoy wine every now andcagain, but I have given up drinking because of his problem. In fact I have given up A LOT because Of his problem. I'm so tired, this relationship has exhausted me. But I am not in the position to leave right now because I need to make sure I am financially ready, for my kids, to be able to support us and provide a sufficient home. In the mean time I am struggling with the pure anger I feel towards him. I do love him, but I can no longer live with all the junk that comes into a relationship when one partner has a drinking problem. Is this anger normal and how is everyone dealing.
Alanon meetings, participation, support. That alone will help dissipate the anger. It is normal. Of course it is. Why are you even questioning your feelings? Be kind to yourself and keep reaching out.