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I met my daughter for lunch today,and mentioned a trip to London I am thinking of planning when I have a week off work,she has a big corparate meeting in London which involves her stopping overnight and it is an event that will involve a lot of drinking,she has said she has told people now that she is cutting down on her drinking due to not being well lately,but if the 2 dates coinode then she could meet up with me in the evening instead and say to her work colleagues that she couldnt stop for evening event,as it is the 2 dates are not on the same week,but my issue is I want to rescue her and now can't and I am angry that alcohol is around in all aspects of her life,her work life,her partner drinks ,her social life and friends,my rational head understands that this is something she has to work out for herself it's her life to sort out and no matter how much I want to I can't make it all better for her,but as a mother and not feeling rational I want to scream this is not fair she is trying and this can speed up her disease (hep c ),as well as her drinking problem.thanks for letting me vent.
((Marcusjohn)) being a mom of an alcoholic I so understand. I wanted to point out that there are AA meetings in London(which she could probably check out before she goes) so that if your visits do not coincide she can then still tell her coworkers she has another appointment and leave for the the AA meeting. My hubby did that often, Trust the process. Positive thoughts on the way.
Sending you (((hugs))), positive thoughts and prayers Marcusjohn...I too understand as another mother to diseased offspring. It is so very, very hard to just let go and let God. I do see now though that there are great benefits to doing so. I still worry, but I don't fret/obsess. I pray for my children often and know that HP has eyes on them. I keep busy with my program and my own life and that does help. I was the momma who fixed everything for so, so long and now believe I prolonged their bottom by providing a soft landing.
Keep working on you and your program and more will be revealed. I too can relate to wanting to remove all obstacles in front of them that might affect their success. However, I also know deep down that we all need those life experiences to grow, learn and prosper.
Keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Are we not so blessed by having this forum? The two shares before me are right on even more considering that they originate from mothers such as yourself. I have my own experiences one of which is already mentioned and I thought I was being deceitful by saying I had another meeting or doctors appointment to attend in lieu of the drinking event and then SO WHAT? is what I imagined I wasn't in recovery to satisfy others...I'm here to get my own life saved.
Thanks Betty and IAH...your shares felt like a warm safe hug. ((((hugs))))
