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Hi, I am Elizabeth from British Columbia. I am disturbed and worried about my daughter's behaviour and she is almost out of my control. I am badly in need of a suggestion. She was into smoking in the initial stage now she is into smoking and alcohol use too. I have been trying convincing her regarding the negatives and it's after effects to health. She is not bothered and she finds being more comfortable with her friends. I have been planning and took so many steps to help her come out of this addiction. But she never did what I wanted. I tried medicines and counseling sessions for her but helped her. Now I am considering an addiction treatment and she said big no for that when I was talking to her about this. I don't know what is to be done. She was telling that she is not sick and she finds it difficult to undergo a treatment for addiction and finds it embarrassing. I don't know what is to be done. I have no idea that how to convince my baby. Please help me with your valuable suggestions that would really help me in this situation. My daughter is worried about her friend now if she attends an addiction treatment. She thinks that her friends would tease and avoid her for this. How can I convince my baby?
-- Edited by el-cee on Tuesday 20th of September 2016 06:25:03 AM
Welcome to MIP Elizabeth. Glad you found us and glad that you posted. The best suggestion I have is to find local Al-Anon meetings and attend. Alcoholism is a progressive disease, and is never cured. It can be treated with recovery and abstinence BUT only if/when one is ready to accept the disease for what it is. I learned in Al-Anon the 3 Cs - 1. I did not cause this. 2. I can not control it. 3. I can't cure it.
We don't offer advice in the program, but having a local support group who understands what you are going through surely helps! MIP is a lovely way for me to augment my recovery in Al-Anon and I am glad you are here.
Keep coming back - there is hope and help in recovery...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
