So - I went to a wedding yesterday and it was a recovery wedding.  It was an outside event and full of fun, laughter, program, fellowship and love.  It was different than any other wedding I had been at, and I brought home the program, which had the Apache Marriage Blessing - new to me and gave me cause to pause and reflect.  

~~Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be the shelter for each other.  Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be the warmth for the other.  Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before.  Go now to your dwelling place to enter into the days of your life together.  And may your days be good and long upon the earth.

Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together.  Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves.  When frustration, difficulty and fear assail your relationship - as they threaten all relationships at one time or another - remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong.  In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives - remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there.  And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.~~

I think I was drawn to this as there is no mention of love - it is instead about respect, treatment me of self and partner and focusing on what's good even when it's dark/stormy.  It reminded me of what I truly admire and respect about my AH and not the sun is always there - even when it's not shining!