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Strange I have feelings of guilt when I'm not the one that committed the crime,xbf is still in jail under a stiff bond,while I'm not knowing when he gets out or if he does,no need in my feeling guilty ,I guess it's because I'm always to blame for everything in my qaulifiers lives,insane but insanity it is,all I can do is go along with the authorities on pressing charges which is being left up to me so far.xbf is a dangerous person,very dangerous when messed up,I'm calling the demestic violence to ask what are there for me to do when he does get out of jail,I've already taken all the nesasary actions of self protection that I know of........hugs lu......just really trying to get through all this,I do feel better with him locked up at least I know where he is and that he isn't hanging somewhere outside my home .he already has huge charges on him but has a good lawyer that keeps putting his court off cause he knows he is going to prison 6 years mandontory on his 1st charges,so he really don't care what's another charge,he has since caught other charges to and now this one,so yes it does have me a bit tense.......I got to get a grip ......thanks for listening..........hugs lu
LU - we had police involvement with my sons a couple of times. I was the source as I made the call. However, in spite of how they choose to throw the blame to me, the caller vs. themselves, the criminal, I had to own my truth. I would not allow another person to violate me or my home through theft, so why on earth would I let those closest to me with an easier ability to repeat the behavior off the hook?
All actions have consequences. There is no reason for you to own any of the consequences of their choice(s). Just keep working your program and trusting HP to lead you in this process. Stay in the day as best you can and just trust the process.
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you Iamhere and that's so right they own it not me ,their consequences of their choices and that's just what I'm gonna do is trust the process allowing it to unfold as it should ,so I'm to step aside ,thanks just what I was needing to hear,sometimes there's moments I guess when I start dough ting my own judgement of such things,I do have to own my part of being mouthy toward xbf just before he stole it ,I had a lot of frustration toward him,I guess he is using the shearling my wallet when he ain't suppose to be in my yard as a way to justify his actions,no matter how messed up he was .....hugs lu
